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Of course living with husband in MIL's home isn't easy. We decided to move in because we could no longer afford the rent. Just before we moved I got laid off. I had been out of work before, but always paid my half of the rent. I always saved money, but it did take a toll on my savings. I tried to save as much as I could when I did get a job, but I just couldn't get it back to where it was before to have that cushion so we didn't live paycheck to paycheck. My mother did give me some money, but it went right to the rent. My mother keeps telling me to save that money just in case. I don't have the heart to tell her it was spent already. My husband was working part-time because they screwed him out of his hours due to seniority (union job) and he worked another job. It was hard on us. We didn't go out to eat hardly, and other entertainment besides a cocktail at the bar was it. We got tired of the greedy bastards taking our money. When hubby's brothers ex-gf and her friend moved out of the attic his mother was asking when we were moving in. She wanted someone here to be with her and help pay the bills of course.
Between unpacking, and looking for a job I am exhausted. We have our own living space upstairs in the attic. We had it upgraded so it is nice and comfortable. That took a chunk of money but it is worth it. there was some ado about the money since hubby had to use personal money he had in his 401k since he didn't realize he was still on his daughter's home loan and the third-party lender wasn't paying it for a time and closed shop. But it's worked out now. They never insulated so we did it. We painted and added carpet. There is also the dynamics of family members coming and going all the time, no forewarning, and did I mention there is only one main bathroom. There is one down in the garage, but it ain't easy when you have to go down stairs in the middle of the night. Hubby uses a bottle system to go number 1. Hubby and his sister had to take a lot of crap out of the attic (wasn't hubby's) and she get pissed because I didn't help. I told her that I asked him to let me help but he insisted I stay home and pack. She was pissed that nobody else but them helped. I get that, but we gave them all plenty of time and warning when we would need the space cleared to get the upgrade done. Then it fell on us to get the trash hauled out and pay for it. Again, not our crap.
There are gripes about the placement of our stuff in the garage, but the other stuff is in storage due to all the crap the kids have all over the garage that have been there for decades.
I do get along with MIL and the rest, but being around them more I try to be nice and helpful cleaning, and such. I am exhausted. The daughter helps out as well. She takes MIL to the doctors' every other day since her work schedule is more flexible. Oddly, she comes back and takes a shower before she goes to work. This house is on water restrictions. She has also left her clothes behind for her mother to wash. Really? She has her own home and brings it here? Mother is too generous and kind to do that.
There are quite a bit of coming and going I am still getting used to.
There is another family member living here (hubby's nephew) who is jobless, and has child (with gf). I am hoping hubby will give him some fatherly advice since his father passed (nephew's) several years ago. He is looking for a job. He moved in because he had a falling-out with his mother and her new bf who moved in. I hope he gets a job and moves on so he can be a good providing father.
I do get along with MIL and her family. I am always nice and try to help out when I can. I like the daughter, she really cares for her mother and is nice to me. I know that when I get a job it will get better for me so I am not here all the time dragging stuff from the garage up to our space and unpacking, cleaning and so on.
Now my vent is over.
What in the world are you venting about? It sounds as though you are being well taken care of by relatives, so I'd say you should be shouting the praises of family, instead of complaining about sharing a bathroom, moving, and cleaning.
Why are you exhausted all the time??? Do you realize what you do is what people do every day AND work full time?
You can only go out to eat and for cocktails every now and then? You sound really entitled - you shouldn't do either one until you can afford it.
Well, get a job and get an apartment if you want better. You are not in a position to complain.
I grew up in a house with 4 people and one bathroom. It works.
I grew up in a family of nine, in a 1.5 bathroom house. At least, until a visiting uncle died in the half bath, and we managed to convince ourselves he haunted it. Back to one full bath. In a solidly middle-class home, it was the norm.
As others have what are you whining about? So you have to share a bathroom, I grew up in a house with 4 people and we had full bathroom and a half bath.
This is the same poster who complained about friends not helping her pack, who expects friends to come over and help you pack?
As others have what are you whining about? So you have to share a bathroom, I grew up in a house with 4 people and we had full bathroom and a half bath.
This is the same poster who complained about friends not helping her pack, who expects friends to come over and help you pack?
I never eat out...never have a cocktail in a bar......
Your "vent" seems rather trivial to me...of course sharing a house with a lot of others can be stressful, but it sure beats being homeless..I hope you can appreciate that.
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