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years ago I had a brothers fiancee' that loved to stir the pot,,,add tension to any gathering,, I tried hard to like her
one rule of family gatherings in my house is not talking politics , she would constantly bring up heated topics and ask what others think... knowing it could lead to a heated argument..
she would also talk down to my brother,, very dismissive.. and same with kids.. she had no patience with kids.
she was also a vegan...and told the kids they would die if they eat any meat at all...that was the last straw... I told my brother she was no longer welcome
they eventually split
ive never met anyone like her since....just had to have a certain amount of tension..
I had a sister-in-law from hell who has since passed. There are some people who are poison and spread their venom all around them, and their evil lives on after them.
I cant stand her so much I don't even consider her an "in-law"!! Can slice the tension with a knife when we're in the same room and we don't even speak a word to each other.
Anyone else feel the same.
Do you have other people in your life that you feel this way about?
The interesting is, I've known her for 15 years (unfortunately) and have hardly spoken to her. Cant stand her demeanor, attitude, etc. I will NOT give her a chance- the hate between us is too deep-rooted. There has never been any outright brawl or argument or anything- just tension when we are in the same room (I do everything to avoid her like the plague). That is the interesting thing. And it is mutual dislike. The brother KNOWS very well I think she's the plague and vice versa.
What has become complicating is they have 2 kids, mind you they are very adorable.
I will keep my distance.
So, in the entire time you've "known" her, you've rarely spoken, never had an argument, and even say you will not give her a chance. And yet you have a "deep-rooted hate". Based on what? You don't know the woman.
I learned what passive-aggressive behavior sounded like from one of my SIL's and how effective it could be. You could record her conversation and see how genus she was by the way she said things. Never could she be pinned down because she never said anything directly, always what someone else said and always spinned in her family's favor. I learned never to say anything in front of her that could be repeated (out of context) to anyone else. She was/is a genius at quoting out of context innocent remarks to make the other person look bad.
I've only ever met one other person who was that good at deliberate misinformation (without being accused of outright lying) and he was a lawyer.
Other SIL's have been good relatives so guess I'm lucky in that..
And having experience with this kind of passive-aggressive person has served me well in dealing with other people who exhibit the same behavior. I keep far away from them if at all possible.
I cant stand her so much I don't even consider her an "in-law"!! Can slice the tension with a knife when we're in the same room and we don't even speak a word to each other.
Yes, hate is a very strong word. I don't think I've had the displeasure of experiencing that emotion, and feel badly for anyone who has. Passion is awesome, but the scale for me goes other direction.
My SIL is a bit on the eclectic side, but I love her to death. We can have heated debates, very intellectual and makes one think. I love that.
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