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OK so here's the story. I am 20 years old I work a stable job with fairly stable hours at $9.15 an hour, I have my own car which I am paying for, I pay my own bills (Cell phone, 3 credit cards, car insurance) and a little bit of food for myself. I still live with my parents so they take care of rent, utilities and most of the food, and every possession I have, I paid for myself (except this computer which I am using to type this, it was a high school graduation gift)
We have been renting a condo in south Orlando for the past 4 months, this is the first time in a very long time (about 15 years) that my family has had a stable living situation. And it is only this way because my dad is 63 and now collecting social security, while my mother picks her hours at Universal Studios and sometimes doesn't work at all
My father is a drunk with a very poor attitude and my mom is just apathetic and her priorities are way out of whack with things. My younger brother is taking the same attitudes as is my sister, they both get $700 a month from Social Security because they are still underage, for absolutely nothing, both are of legal age to work but they refuse to get jobs
My father has always been emotionally abusive towards all of us, me and my mom in particular.
I was born in Connecticut, and we moved to Orlando in 1995, and then back to Connecticut in 2001. In 1999, my mother cheated on my dad, and my dad took off to Connecticut. My mom, brother, sister, and I went to live with a nice family we went to church with, my dad returned to Orlando a little while later in a red convertible saying he had a good job and that everything was going to be ok, it wasn't.
We ended up living with another family who my mom knew through her job, then we lived in a homeless shelter for awhile, then we moved from motel to motel to motel until my dad rented a place way out in the country near Ocala. We lived there for a year until my dad wanted a place closer to his job in Orlando. We ended up moving to a trailer park out in a rural area of town, where my mom cheated on my dad again, and again he abandoned us. He crashed the family's car in Jacksonville and was arrested for DUI, and he went back to Connecticut
Eventually my Dad actually DID get a good paying job, but it required us to move back to Connecticut, to which I did NOT want to leave.
At first things were looking good, my father had just gotten a mortgage for a house, and he was about to close on it when he was laid off from his job. (Or so he said) We ended up living in a ratty motel for a year before my dad got an apartment and another job that paid MUCH less then what he made at the factory he was laid off at.
I was in middle school at the time and I hated it. The kids were so mean to me, and I went to middle school in a ghetto part of Connecticut, and my parents nor the school seemed to care. Right when I needed somebody in my life there was nobody, no shoulder to cry on, nobody who was willing to listen, nobody at all!
By 2005 my father's abusiveness reached a point where it was becoming physical, and I HAD to get away. I called my grandmother who lives in Orlando and she invited me to come live with her. Eventually my mom and brother came down to live with me, which caused my grandmother to send the 3 of us back to Connecticut. But for the short time I was there, I was so happy I didn't want to leave.
My father's abuse continued to worsen but I had gotten a job to save up money to get back to Florida, I was willing to do anything to get out of Connecticut and back to the sunshine state. One day my mom, brother, and I packed up and headed to Florida. We gave my sister the option to stay but she said no.
Eventually my mom missed my sister and rather then divorce my dad which she promised she would do, she wanted a quick and easy fix to see her again, so she PAID my father and sister's plane tickets to come down and live with us. For years we lived in so many different motels I cant even count, until finally when I was 18 and got the job I have now I moved out on my own, while I was still in high school
I graduated and rather then go to college, I wanted to stay on my own so I went to work. I bought my car last year, and was promoted at my job. But with the car payment and insurance, money got extremely tight so I moved back home to save some money up, since my family is now staying in a decent place, and my dad's income is stable
But none of it has changed the arguments are as bad as they've ever been between all of us, we are not even a family anymore, it seems as if it's every man for them self. I dont know why but it dawned on me to move away again, but this time not in Orlando or even within Florida, I want to move FAR AWAY, Las Vegas to be exact.
One day it dawned on me that I would like to live there, Last week I took a trip to see what the city is like (off the strip) and I loved everything I saw and did. The scenery is so gorgeous, the locals are so friendly and down to earth, and there is a virtual endless amount of things to do, I knew the minute I got off the plane I was meant to be there, it was the first time in my life I was truly happy.
I had a job interview there at the Planet Hollywood Casino while I was there, it would be a full time position.
I find myself again desperately wanting to make a move to get away from my family, and Im willing to do whatever it takes to make it happen. I'm not trying to run away from ALL my problems in Florida, I just don't want anything to do with my family anymore. I can't stand the dysfunction and it is driving me crazy, I don't want anything to do with them
Sorry that was so long, but would you want to do the same thing if you're family was at all like mine?
Yes by all means go! It is time to lead your own life. Staying nearby your parents and siblings may mean you might be swept into their lifestyle which you dont want to do.
Could you give me more info on how to get 700 dollars a month for doing nothing?
My dad is collecting social security, he gets $1400 a month, my brother and sister are still under 18, social security gives them both $700 a month because they are underage!
BTW to anybody who read this thread, I hate my job Im at too, I loved it at first, after I got my promotion I have come to dread going to work everyday now, yet I still find myself working all kinds of extra hours because my boss still thinks I want to make it into a career (management path) But I dont want to tell him I want to move across the country
Long as you have a steady job to support yourself then I think you should move to Vegas. It's nice to have family but there aren't any guarantees they'll be a positive influence. In your case, it's best to move away.
My dad is collecting social security, he gets $1400 a month, my brother and sister are still under 18, social security gives them both $700 a month because they are underage!
BTW to anybody who read this thread, I hate my job Im at too, I loved it at first, after I got my promotion I have come to dread going to work everyday now, yet I still find myself working all kinds of extra hours because my boss still thinks I want to make it into a career (management path) But I dont want to tell him I want to move across the country
Well at least you are working and doing something. I used to work in management before I lost my job and I know it is not the greatest thing in the world to do. All I can tell you if you feel you need to leave, go on and do it.
I say go for it. If you feel at peace in Las Vegas, then that is where you should be! Good luck to you- and I hope you get that job and are able to live in a stable, loving environment.
SO sorry about your situation,Davie. You do what you need to do, ok? My family is not (too) bad, in fact it's our IN-laws(all three) who are somewhat er.. funny.
it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders! i say yes, move. but i would also say, try your best to get some kind of skill/degree. even a trade of some sort. it will help you in the long run to never have to go back to that living situation you are trying so desperately to get away from.
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