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waking up i just realize how she has screwed me over so many times by doing things that she wanted to do, assuming i would be okay with it. she is also a financial burden to me (mainly my fault), and i am not a bank of leavingla210!
she is in town for 2 weeks. i am not inviting her anywhere anymore, answering my phone for her, or responding to any email/facebook messages she has sent me.
if you read my last post (or one of them) i told her it is annoying to just invite other people without consulting me their "chauffeur".
look i guess really the main reason i "kept her around" is she is my ONLY jewish friend. i never have anyone to go to jewish events with. i go to those things stag most of the time, and really dont make any friends aside from just in the moment small talk.
one thing I learned is lending money to friends always leads to problems in some form or the other. Either they take advantage of you being nice or they never pay you back so it is better to cut you losses and move on.
this girl is the only one whose crap i have put up with based on our past history with each other, and honestly because she is a fellow jew (no one probably understands that).
i am not usually a doormat for my friends, but you can believe jeepgirl118 because she has more rep points (lol).
anyway, i will just go on my merry way tonight and when i want to f'in leave, they are either coming with me that second or its a "gee. well im going. looks like you are going to have to take a cab or figure out some other way to get home".
i dont have the patience for people like this anymore.
Somehow, you've made this Jewish friend of yours feel that her company is worth more in your friendship, and that you owe her rides everywhere. Early on, you should have been b*tched about how much it costs you to have a car, complained about the expense of car repairs, and then you can more easily turn around and ask her for gas money.
Another tact would be to pretend your car is broken and to suggest splitting a car rental or taxi for the night 50/50 with her, and see what her response is.
this girl is the only one whose crap i have put up with based on our past history with each other, and honestly because she is a fellow jew (no one probably understands that).
i am not usually a doormat for my friends, but you can believe jeepgirl118 because she has more rep points (lol).
anyway, i will just go on my merry way tonight and when i want to f'in leave, they are either coming with me that second or its a "gee. well im going. looks like you are going to have to take a cab or figure out some other way to get home".
i dont have the patience for people like this anymore.
good for you I would be the same either leave when I leave or find your own way home.
How do we teach people how to treat us? Some people are just jerks.
In your own personal offline life, if you do not mean "no" when you say it and do not stick to it, people will trample all over you. If you are whimsical - people will find that vulnerability and will trample all over you. That is why you see them and believe them to be "jerks." You teach them where the "holes" are and how to manipulate them. You are allowing this when it happens. No one is a victim, unless you believe you are.
I am friends w/ people who are deemed by others to be "jerks" and in no way, no how - are they able to be jerks to ME, because I have taught them that it is simply not allowed. I have taught them to respect me.
Absolutely no one can treat you a certain way on a continued basis without YOUR consent. . .
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