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Hello, I used to be friends with one guy who is my classmate but he told me that he likes me more than a friend I've told him that I want just to be friends with him.Since then he completely stopped talking to me, is acting like I'm invisible, gives me short answers..I feel sad because he was only one friend I had in my class, other classmates feel like totally strangers for me, I don't know anything about them, they don't know anything about me, they have friends and spend time with them. Now only that guy who used to be my friend and left friendless. I still feel attached to him because I know him more than anyone else in my class, I could always trust him, I still want to be with him. How to get over it?
Hi Simonna,
Unfortunately you'll have people like that. I'm sorry for your loss, and I sure know the feeling, but seems that he wanted more than you had to offer. You never mentioned how long you knew him, but perhaps he had hopes that your friendship would blossom into a relationship - and it just doesn't always work that way.
Seems that he's a bit selfish, you told him that you liked him - just not that way. I know it's hard now, but maybe join a couple of school related activities, like art, music, etc. and you'll befriend sincere people, not those who are in it for what hey can get out of it. I can almost guarantee that there will be others from whom friendship can grow.
Hello, I used to be friends with one guy who is my classmate but he told me that he likes me more than a friend I've told him that I want just to be friends with him.Since then he completely stopped talking to me, is acting like I'm invisible, gives me short answers..I feel sad because he was only one friend I had in my class, other classmates feel like totally strangers for me, I don't know anything about them, they don't know anything about me, they have friends and spend time with them. Now only that guy who used to be my friend and left friendless. I still feel attached to him because I know him more than anyone else in my class, I could always trust him, I still want to be with him. How to get over it?
This sounds like a good time to get to know your other classmates, and expand your circle of friends. Hopefully you didn't totally ignored them when things were good between you and your former friend.
Not everybody can handle rejection, and perhaps his emotional maturity is not develop yet at this point in his young life.
This sounds like a good time to get to know your other classmates, and expand your circle of friends. Hopefully you didn't totally ignored them when things were good between you and your former friend.
Not everybody can handle rejection, and perhaps his emotional maturity is not develop yet at this point in his young life.
^^^^^^This is good advice. Sit next to someone new and say "hi". Guys are immature, baby boys when it comes to their ego, women and sex. I've lost many guy friends this way too. Good on you for keeping it real and respecting your feelings. You're not alone.
Who needs him! Certainly not you. He's a narcissist actually because he's going to get all hurt/mad just because a person doesn't like him back. Oh pish tosh!
You don't need him as even a friend. He needs to grow up big time. I hope you're ignoring him too & not looking over in his direction, just hoping he says something to you. He's not even a genuine friend if he's going to gell all mad over that.
This sounds like a good time to get to know your other classmates, and expand your circle of friends. Hopefully you didn't totally ignored them when things were good between you and your former friend.
Not everybody can handle rejection, and perhaps his emotional maturity is not develop yet at this point in his young life.
No I never totally ignored anyone.I'm just studying major where all of my classmates are guys, so almost all of them are smoking and I don't have ability to get to know them better because I'm not smoking so I never spend time with them.
Maybe this guy is being distant after you told him you only wanted to be friends and did not take it all that well. Things will probably settle down but you can't expect him to spend a lot of time with you if he is looking for a relationship with someone. He will need to spend his time doing that just as you would do the same. He is probably being careful. A lot of guys are weary of trying to figure out relationships with women (don't take that wrong, just hear what I am saying) and will back off quickly when giving certain messages. He probably interpreted your statement as "Okay, she has been nice to me but I am of little real interest to her so it is time for me to back off."
If he wanted to date you, then it would not be fair to expect him to hang around and just be "friends" if he wants more than that.
Exactly. He was honest with her and explained how he felt, likely knowing that he risked losing a friend also. That isn't easy. What's he supposed to do now, just flip a switch and turn his feelings off?
And OP, I have to wonder if maybe you haven't been clear and direct with him about how you feel. I say this because of how you worded your last sentence: "I still feel attached to him because I know him more than anyone else in my class, I could always trust him, I still want to be with him."
That's an unusual way to speak of someone who you view strictly as a friend.
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