Double-booked with two different friends. What would you do? (introduction)
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For the purpose of this thread, assume that friends X and Y are from two separate circles, both socially and geographically. They have different interests, and introductions will be somewhat challenging. Also assume all three of you are the same sex.
I'm sure people had this happen before. You're looking to do something in the evening. The time to plan is running short. So you call/text a friend (call them X), to invite them to hang out. A hour passes, and X hasn't responded. So you call/text another friend (call them Y), and invite them to a different activity. Friend Y replies to you within 15 minutes, and agrees. Another hour later, friend X replies, agreeing as well. So now, you got two different friends who agreed to two different activities. And you're stuck in the middle, with a slight moral dilemma on your hands.
How would you make a decision? Which do you think will be most fair to everyone involved? Vote in the poll and post in comments.
Last edited by MillennialUrbanist; 11-20-2016 at 11:29 AM..
For the purpose of this thread, assume that friends X and Y are from two separate circles, both socially and geographically. They have different interests, and introductions will be somewhat challenging. Also assume all three of you are the same sex.
I'm sure people had this happen before. You're looking to do something in the evening. The time to plan is running short. So you call/text a friend (call them X), to invite them to hang out. A hour passes, and X hasn't responded. So you call/text another friend (call them Y), and invite them to a different activity. Friend Y replies to you within 15 minutes, and agrees. Another hour later, friend X replies, agreeing as well. So now, you got two different friends who agreed to two different activities. And you're stuck in the middle, with a slight moral dilemma on your hands.
How would you make a decision? Which do you think will be most fair to everyone involved? Vote in the poll and post in comments.
This is another example of why this country is in big trouble.
What's so difficult? "Sorry X I already made plans with someone, let's get together next week" or you could take a chance and bring X and Y together and the three of you do something.
Most people will understand when trying to make plans for the short term (for that evening) that if you didn't hear back within x amount of time that you have moved forward with other plans. There is no "double-booking" in your example. There was no "booking" until Friend Y responded affirmatively.
I think you're making your social life much more complicated than it needs to be.
I also have trouble seeing this as a "slight moral dilemma." You were not tasked with deciding which friend to throw into the sea to lighten the weight of the boat. Meet Friend X for a boat ride some other time or invite him to join you and Friend Y to set sail on whatever activity the two of you decided upon. You've made the effort to be inclusive and he will accept or not.
"Sorry, X, when I didn't hear from you I made other plans. You're welcome to join us, or I'll catch up with you another time."
Took the words out of my mouth
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