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I want to have better social skills. Can somebody give me tips or advice. I want to be able to talk to people without all the miscommunication and misunderstandings.
Wish I could help - I'm a blabbermouth. I notice some people catch a glimpse of me and disappear quickly.
I try to follow "cues" - know when to interject an opinion or whatever. I try to be courteous. BUt I LOVE striking up random convos especially to get rid of any buildup tension. Like waiting in lines that never end...
Miscommunication and misunderstandings are a constant. Perhaps you could just come right out and ask? "Did you mean ... *this?"
Or, "let me make sure I understand" then repeat what they said.
Life is full of misquotes, misunderstandings. Expect them but don't take blame. Enjoy life and people!!
Listen to what others say, and pay attention to their body language. If you are speaking with someone for the first time, don't say so much, but listen a lot. When someone asks about you, you can get by at first with minimal information, because at first people just want to sort of pigeon hole you. They are truly not that interested in you as a person. Later when you get to know people better, you can do more sharing.
With people you already know, and whom you feel don't like you, pick up on their moods and echo their feelings. " I can understand why you feel that way. That is a real pain." You would probably use a different way of characterizing whatever it is, but you get my drift.
1) Be more interested in them than yourself. Be curious about them and their lives. Respond to what they say. Pretty soon, they'll think you're the most interesting conversationalist in the room.
2) If you engage in conversation at a party, don't cling to their leg when they're making efforts to leave. Circulate through the party. Be the first to break off the conversation, but do so gracefully.
3) Make an effort to remember people's names. They'll appreciate it more than you know.
4) Invest ten bucks in a book of etiquette. I don't mea books obsessed with where the fish fork goes on a place setting, but one that covers the fundamentals of how to function in social situations. Those are not rules they're setting down. Instead, they are principles designed to help everyone enjoy a social situation in relative comfort.
5) Find other people in the room who look as uncomfortable as you. They'll be grateful for your attention.
6) If you meeting someone and learn that they have something in common with someone else in the room, ask if they know one another. Then introduce them. They'll think you are amazing.
7) If you're a guy talking to women, look them in the eyes, not 18 inches lower. And don't treat them as if they were fertility goddesses to be worshipped. Women hate that.
8) Once you've circled the room trying to talk to people, return to the ones who were the most interesting to you. You can't be everything to everyone you know.
A friend joined Toastmasters. This is a supportive club where members give speeches. It was amazing to see the personality change and confidence he gained. Plus, he made many many friends in the club. You can find a club near you by googling.
A friend joined Toastmasters. This is a supportive club where members give speeches. It was amazing to see the personality change and confidence he gained. Plus, he made many many friends in the club. You can find a club near you by googling.
1) Be more interested in them than yourself. Be curious about them and their lives. Respond to what they say. Pretty soon, they'll think you're the most interesting conversationalist in the room.
2) If you engage in conversation at a party, don't cling to their leg when they're making efforts to leave. Circulate through the party. Be the first to break off the conversation, but do so gracefully.
3) Make an effort to remember people's names. They'll appreciate it more than you know.
4) Invest ten bucks in a book of etiquette. I don't mea books obsessed with where the fish fork goes on a place setting, but one that covers the fundamentals of how to function in social situations. Those are not rules they're setting down. Instead, they are principles designed to help everyone enjoy a social situation in relative comfort.
5) Find other people in the room who look as uncomfortable as you. They'll be grateful for your attention.
6) If you meeting someone and learn that they have something in common with someone else in the room, ask if they know one another. Then introduce them. They'll think you are amazing.
7) If you're a guy talking to women, look them in the eyes, not 18 inches lower. And don't treat them as if they were fertility goddesses to be worshipped. Women hate that.
8) Once you've circled the room trying to talk to people, return to the ones who were the most interesting to you. You can't be everything to everyone you know.
I have social anxiety disorder, so I have issues too. This is great advice. Also, read the book "How to Win Friends and Influence People". Its a classic that still applies to this day.
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