Waiting For Inheritance (wife, father, husband, person)
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I was on the phone with my sister who informed me she now has 5 grand kids and wanted me to remind my son that he should be thinking about these second cousins.
What? There is no family contact between her family and mine, and now she wants me to tell my son that he needs to be keeping her kids in mind?
It took me a minute to realize that she expects her grand kids to be in my son's will. I told my son what she had said and he got it immediately that they are expecting to be in the will. I suppose from her point of view, my son isn't married and has no children and he is financially quite comfortable, so her kids should be his heirs because in her view there is no one else to leave it to.
I'm afraid that they are in for a disappointment. My son put it in much stronger terms, but I am not allowed to use those words on C-D.
I find this whole waiting to inherit to be rather odd: this hoping someone will die so you can get some money. I've known several people who have done it. Making nothing of themselves because they intend to come into money some day. Or making plans for what they will do with the money they inherit.
I've also seen several people waste their lives away, only at the end, there is no money left for them to inherit.
Tacky. Wow. I'm not sure what I would have said. My husband's sister was always waiting for "another inheritance." Pathetic, but how some people think. I work w/ elderly people and I think their kids might be waiting, too, some of them. But, they might wait a long time since many are in their mid 90's and still doing kicking. Lol.
I'm so sorry for both you and your son Oregon. I know the disappointment you must feel in growing up with your sister, and then have her show her true colors in such a despicable way.
I hope you have Happy Holidays, and that this does not ruin that for you.
Let dead dogs lie, and just take her remarks at face value. And remember...but I hope it doesn't become between you and your sister, but is just a remembrance in the back of your mind of what she is capable of stooping to, so you know what you are facing in the future.
I think you were wise to inform your son of the conversation you and sis had.
Last edited by TerraDown; 12-23-2016 at 04:08 PM..
I was on the phone with my sister who informed me she now has 5 grand kids and wanted me to remind my son that he should be thinking about these second cousins.
What? There is no family contact between her family and mine, and now she wants me to tell my son that he needs to be keeping her kids in mind?
It took me a minute to realize that she expects her grand kids to be in my son's will. I told my son what she had said and he got it immediately that they are expecting to be in the will. I suppose from her point of view, my son isn't married and has no children and he is financially quite comfortable, so her kids should be his heirs because in her view there is no one else to leave it to.
I'm afraid that they are in for a disappointment. My son put it in much stronger terms, but I am not allowed to use those words on C-D.
I find this whole waiting to inherit to be rather odd: this hoping someone will die so you can get some money. I've known several people who have done it. Making nothing of themselves because they intend to come into money some day. Or making plans for what they will do with the money they inherit.
I've also seen several people waste their lives away, only at the end, there is no money left for them to inherit.
Man, Oh, Man is your sister wrong!
Even if the situation was slightly different, for example, your son was extremely, extremely close to one of his cousins and was the godfather of one of their children, it would still be very wrong for your sister to hint about putting that grandchild, her nephew's godchild, in his will.
Sheesh! The absolute rudeness of some people!
Last edited by germaine2626; 12-23-2016 at 03:33 PM..
I don't think I ever knew anyone that put cousins in the will. By the way they are his first cousins once removed. They would be his children's second cousins if he ever has any.
The day I met my SIL (my husband's brother's wife), she made a comment that literally made my head rolled. "I can't wait till the grandma die because we could use the money." Meaning my husband's grandmother who was a well off woman. Even stranger, it was a comment taken rather nonchalantly by everyone else in the family. I told my husband this is so bizarre, but all he could say was, Well, that's my family for you. He never ever liked her.
OP, could it be possible your sister meant to be fishing for Xmas gifts? Of course, you know your sister best. It's still too bizarre to wrap my head around, I can't understand people who are like that.
Wow, what nerve. I have a niece & nephew as beneficiaries to my investments but am thinking of changing that as the only times I hear from them is when they want something. The funds will probably be gone by the time I die anyways as it's for retirement use, but...the thoughts are the same.
Wow, that is really disgusting. If your sister presses you on this, I would just cheerfully say not to count on it as your son probably has other plans. Since he has no relationship with them, no loss.
I just don't get people other than the immediate children - sons and daughters of the deceased - expecting to receive an inheritance. Even worse, some with more children expect more money. Get a clue - if you can't afford to take care of your own children and their needs, you should not have had them. It is NOT up to Grandma to foot the bill for college or gift the down payment for a house.
If there were no children, I personally have several charities I would leave money to. Good lesson for the money grubbers.
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