Do you think this is a good idea for my husband? (wife, father)
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Thanks. Yeah. It is kind of sad though. I also feel this is the real reason why he decided not to have kids anymore. And again I blame the ex wife for this coz well I got affected by this big time.
I agree it might be terrible. And yeah if he really wants to, he will do it himself. But he gave up on his son. Unfortunately.
Yeah he actually does not want to talk about it. Not even the divorce. That's why I did a Sherlock Holmes on it, myself.
I honestly have no idea/forgot how I even track him down, LOL.
I do remember asking my husband, what if, your son, out of the blue, knock on your door? What would you do? His response? - We'll see. - WTF.
Oh well, thanks guys. I actually am scared to contact his son anyway coz the ex wife might know and the ex wife is lawsuit friendly.
Pretty sure biatch will sue me somehow.
I ain't got time for that.
Are you crazy? And is this a roundabout way of "solving" his not wanting to have kids so that YOU can have kids? Double crazy. This is HIS business so stay out of it. Your husband is an adult and so is his son - let THEM decide if they want to reunite.
Then that means your husband gave up his parental rights to his son and he's not his son anymore.
Nice guy ya married there..
I already said he has a low EQ he has an emotional threshold of a cup or even smaller. Yesterday, he was so mad at our grocery total, a whopping $180. One of his rant was 'When i give up, I give up'. His solution was withdraw $500 and gamble and if he lost, he will withdraw all his money so he can't pay mortgage and bills anymore. He honestly is a mess. I told him your way of thinking is nuts.
And when he worries about money like that. My line always is - how many freaking times I have to tell you it is only money you have a freaking job you can earn it back?!
See, there are also times he is frustrated and I have to shush him you know how you comfort a child and always tell him to relax. And he relax. He is lucky I can understand his tantrums.
I honestly don't know how I tolerate him when he does this behavior but that is only my example on how you handle conflicts like that. If you meet someone's anger with anger it will really end up with physical altercation.
I know he will never harm me physically because I won't let him. Meaning I will WALK away when I sense it is going in that direction. Because I have a freaking COMMON SENSE.
He maybe a deadbeat, lowlife to many of you. But like I said I am not stupid. He treats me right and he supports me in everything and I really don't care what you guys think of him.
You can't blame only one person if the other person is antagonistic from the beginning. And when someone has an emotional threshold of a cup that has a thinking of 'When i give up, I give up'. And you still don't get it then get off my thread. LOOOOOOOOOL.
Are you crazy? And is this a roundabout way of "solving" his not wanting to have kids so that YOU can have kids? Double crazy. This is HIS business so stay out of it. Your husband is an adult and so is his son - let THEM decide if they want to reunite.
It is my instinct that tells me the son situation made him decide to not have kids anymore. And actually it is only now that I realized and makes perfect sense, when he told me about the son situation and how his ex destroyed him and will not let it happen to him again.
His solution was - no more kids for him ever. And I made it happen for him too, I requested for him to get a vasectomy.
No. I actually want to. Why he signed it. But I know he won't like it. He really does not want to discuss it.
You should have discussed all of this before you married this man. Now, I'd have to say that you are messing with something that could have dramatic repercussions in your marriage. Be very careful.
Do not spring this on your husband. If he desires a relationship with his son he can do what you did, He can find him.
Are you crazy? And is this a roundabout way of "solving" his not wanting to have kids so that YOU can have kids? Double crazy. This is HIS business so stay out of it. Your husband is an adult and so is his son - let THEM decide if they want to reunite.
Yes, yes, you've nailed it. She's cray cray. VERY cray cray.
It is my instinct that tells me the son situation made him decide to not have kids anymore. And actually it is only now that I realized and makes perfect sense, when he told me about the son situation and how his ex destroyed him and will not let it happen to him again.
His solution was - no more kids for him ever. And I made it happen for him too, I requested for him to get a vasectomy.
Done and done.
Then what's the problem? It worked for both of you. You made him get a vasectomy and he did. So everyone's happy now. Right?
Then what's the problem? It worked for both of you. You made him get a vasectomy and he did. So everyone's happy now. Right?
Yes. Are you?
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