Do you have any friends like this who repeat the same story over and over? (grandma, conversation)
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I had a friend about 25 years ago that I called "Three-peat Todd" because he always said everything three times.
As for re-telling stories, I know people that do it. I let them - what does it hurt to hear the story again? My grandmother (who had short-term memory loss her last couple of years) ALWAYS told the same stories time and time again, and I always sat and listened to them as though I had never heard them before. She's gone now, and I'd give anything to listen to her tell her stories again...
I had a friend about 25 years ago that I called "Three-peat Todd" because he always said everything three times.
As for re-telling stories, I know people that do it. I let them - what does it hurt to hear the story again? My grandmother (who had short-term memory loss her last couple of years) ALWAYS told the same stories time and time again, and I always sat and listened to them as though I had never heard them before. She's gone now, and I'd give anything to listen to her tell her stories again...
I couldn't agree more...you're right on!!!!
I do the same....I know I'm going to be hearing the same old same old....but that's OK, I go because I care for them, I know what to expect, and to me it's not a big deal to look on with interest just like you said "as though I had never heard them before"......it gives them comfort, and that's why I'm there.
Many friends so that. I do it as well the older I get!
I have a lot of stories that for some reason I think others would like to hear. I usually will start with the caveat "Have I ever told you story about...".
Definitely happens more the older we get.
My dad would tell the same stories over and over usually i would try to show interest and listen.
As an aside there are some stories that are better with frequent retelling. Many times my mother in law would tell the same stories around the table. People would ask for them in fact.
My father does this all the time. Part of it is his age, and part of it is that he has 5 children and numerous grandkids. He can't keep track of who heard which story.
It could be several things, narcissistic behavior, age, or just an extremely selfish and believe me, there are people all over like that, they are exhausting....years ago, there was a name for them, they were called emotional vampires b/c they literally drain you....
best not to try and figure it out....just move on...if you can....don't be a door mat for anyone or compromise your identity for someone like this....
it all depends on you, what you want, and what your willing to give.
Such an extreme reaction to someone that is just annoying! Seriously, if we all got rid of friends who had one or two annoying traits we'd neither be a friend to, nor a friend of, anyone.
I shudder to think of everyone with a spouse like this who would follow your advice - the divorce rate would soar!
I wasn't going to stop being her friend, but I'm glad to see based on the responses that this is a more common situation than I realized. It's not just me noticing something. And others have similar experiences with people they know.
Haha yeah I do have a friend that does that. Wants to call me and tell me the same stories over and over....I think she just likes to hear herself talk. I sometimes interject and say yes, I know you already told me.
I don't have any friends that do this, though I do have some "friends of friends" that I encounter from time to time.
I know two people like this, and they are both exactly the same. They both peaked in high school, and when a big group of us get together and they happen to be there, it never fails that they tell the same stories about what happened in high school and how it was so funny, man what a blast, etc. They never have anything new to share. Both these guys are unmarried, still don't have a career, etc.
We'll all be sitting there swapping stories of our latest vacations, things our kids have done, etc... And they're just waiting for the conversation to turn to some topic where they can hurriedly interject with a high school story. Groan.
I had a friend about 25 years ago that I called "Three-peat Todd" because he always said everything three times.
As for re-telling stories, I know people that do it. I let them - what does it hurt to hear the story again? My grandmother (who had short-term memory loss her last couple of years) ALWAYS told the same stories time and time again, and I always sat and listened to them as though I had never heard them before. She's gone now, and I'd give anything to listen to her tell her stories again...
Normally it wouldn't. But, the friend I had would tell stories about situations that hurt her. She'd re-live the pain every time she'd tell the story. So, she'd tell her repeat, angry stories (with the outbursts included), I'd play couch therapist. Days later, she'd start telling the same ole story again, then back to playing couch therapist I go. Rinse, repeat --until I just couldn't do it anymore and I'd have to tell her to stop it. This friend is now an ex friend. She was a drama-mama.
My grandma used to do this but she was elderly so it was ok.
However, my husband has a co-worker who is notorious for telling the same LONG stories constantly day in and day out for most of the 12 (yes 12) hours they work together. But he's only in his 40s. With him, we think he repeats his stories a lot due to his alcoholism.
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This friend is now an ex friend. She was a drama-mama.
