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Me, I'm basically curious, as I listen to a talk show on the way home and they always bring up general subjects, which I enjoy hearing people's comments when they call in.
I also love to participate in discussions, you learn a lot. About people, about self control, and for me, I've also learned a lot about politics. It's fun and nice...
Also, its interesting to get the perspectives of others....to, hear and learn things that I didn't know before...
Everyone has something to add, to participate be it, pro or con.
Throughout my day to day life, something comes up that one of my co-workers are discussing, or something on the news, might be political, might be on a general subject, or simply about a new TV program or movie that I saw. It's nice to put up a thread and hear what other people think. Something that happens on the way to work, or during the course of the day while interacting with society.
Lately, I've seen people come into threads and accuse the person of being overly upset b/c I posted a thread...or there are always those who are threatened by a subject, who do not agree, and give it the ol, argumentative feedback...and then, before you know it, others come in and attack that person posting.
So, please try and remember....people posting their threads do not know you personally. That thread is not about you, it is though, about someone or something they saw or heard and thought it would make for a good discussion....
In so many instances, there are no right or wrong answers, but simply the way a person feels and thinks about a subject. No matter how they feel, if you disagree, it's not about you...taking it personal to the point of getting angry is silly.
So, why do you post threads, and what do you think we can do, to help others along.
Me I think the best thing is to not answer an argumentative statement, to just ignore them and move on...
There are and will always be people who disagree, but there is a nice way to go about it, and a mean spirited way?
A big reason for some of the negativity is the ridiculous amount of troll posts. Someone looking to create drama will post something purely fictional, looking for reactions. Every day there are a handful of made up stories by "one and done" posters that illicit reactions that are critical to their thinking. There would be nothing more boring than a forum where everyone loves everyone and even the dumbest threads would be treated as gospel. I see nothing wrong with calling them out as long as it doesn't get personal.
A lot of people come on here with an ax to grind. I think it's because they feel powerless IRL. They might have an overbearing boss, spouse or parent. They may feel like they can't control their kids. So, they lash out on here.
A big reason for some of the negativity is the ridiculous amount of troll posts. Someone looking to create drama will post something purely fictional, looking for reactions. Every day there are a handful of made up stories by "one and done" posters that illicit reactions that are critical to their thinking. There would be nothing more boring than a forum where everyone loves everyone and even the dumbest threads would be treated as gospel. I see nothing wrong with calling them out as long as it doesn't get personal.
Not sure I know what troll posts are?
and true, your right, it would be awfully boring....
A lot of people come on here with an ax to grind. I think it's because they feel powerless IRL. They might have an overbearing boss, spouse or parent. They may feel like they can't control their kids. So, they lash out on here.
I never thought of it that way....but yes....that could be very true.
Some people post because they really want input. Others enjoy living in fairy tale land making up a new life that is probably better than their own.
That's the thing in threads where the OP is asking for advice--everyone writes themselves as the hero of their own story. Then when people start questioning their actions or motives they get their hackles up because they're the good guy.
What gets me is someone creating a thread asking for opinions and/or advice and then lashing out viciously at the opiinions/advice she doesn't like. Fortunately that is not the norm on City-Data, but we have to keep in mind that there are mentally ill people in real life and some of them end up here. Why not?
What gets me is someone creating a thread asking for opinions and/or advice and then lashing out viciously at the opiinions/advice she doesn't like. Fortunately that is not the norm on City-Data, but we have to keep in mind that there are mentally ill people in real life and some of them end up here. Why not?
This is particularly true on the Politics forum. Heaven forbid you do not agree with the poster's thoughts. So many are either extreme right or left those of us leaning in the middle just don't fit in.
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