Friends who are not there for you when you're at your lowest

[RubyDee]

Everyone experiences ups and downs in their life so obviously they were not your friend.

[Mightyqueen801]

Originally Posted by tassity22

I am not sure maybe you could give more specifics about the situation.


I knew a woman a while back who decided I was off her social list when she found out my husband lost his job. I ran into her again a few months later at Barnes & Noble, she came for storytime in the kids section and I had brought my daughter there. She wanted to know if my personal life had improved. I asked her what she meant by that. She whispered "your husband, did he get another job" and she said it like it was some shameful thing. And when I told her yes, she said "well, we'll get together again some time, please text me". But I never contacted her. Mainly because I don't want my child exposed to people like her. I usually drop people before they get a chance to do that to me, once I get a whiff of their attitude. I'm gone.

What a complete a-hole. Shallow as a puddle. Good decision.

[otterhere]

Again, I think it's valuable to cultivate a pragmatic approach to the whole "friend" thing. No, most people are not your true, bosom friends who will stick with you through thick or thin and die for you. They are acquaintances. That doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't associate with them or even have relationships with them. I doubt if many people -- especially these days -- live up to the standards some have regarding friendship. Prepare to be disappointed by them, and although you'll be disappointed, you won't be surprised! If you have even one REAL friend, count yourself very lucky.