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I don't understand this concept; I've never heard this before. Could you elaborate?
I think tidaldream means that the person is incapable of validating themselves, or self-soothing. When you have the ability to validate yourself you don't need to run every thought and experience you have by other people. Your own opinion is the most important. Someone who can't validate themselves is constantly looking for validation from other people, but of course it's never really enough, so they just keep going and going and going.
Completely self-absorbed. No-one else exists, no-one else really matters. I would guess s/he is also incapable of empathy. I would also guess this person is incapable of the art of conversation, one of those people who twitches while you're talking, as they're waiting to burst out with their own mediocre experience on the subject instead of reacting with shock and horror to the anecdote you're relating, about the bank robber who held you at gunpoint for an hour.
Also, speaking from recent personal experience, it is best not to humor these people by listening to their incessant droning! If someone is coming to you telling you everything about themselves, constantly complaining or what have you, that person is not good at dealing with and solving their own problems and they're just looking to use other people as sounding boards or sources of empathy and sympathy. Asking for advice or a listening ear here and there is fine, but no adult should be dumping their "stuff" on other people all the time.
This reminds me of people who never ask their friends questions. Do you know anyone like this? They talk about themselves, but never try to draw the other person out by asking questions about the activities or thoughts of the other person.
This reminds me of people who never ask their friends questions. Do you know anyone like this? They talk about themselves, but never try to draw the other person out by asking questions about the activities or thoughts of the other person.
My brother spends an hour and a half droning on about himself, then gets up and leaves, saying, "Hey, it was really great to catch up on news with you! Great to see you!" He genuinely thinks he's learned what I've been up to, when in fact I haven't had a chance to get a word in edgewise the whole time. This is alarmingly delusional. It spooked me the first time it happened, after I hadn't seen him in many years.
I find the way a person conveys a scenario to be fascinating! It's their story.
Some folks prefer the "recap-minimized" version.
Contingent on priority of current tasks...The listening can be less attentive.
But if it's a one way conversation..Then often I've already left the conversation in my mind.
Has the person been broached on "make it quick' I gotta task to complete. Or give them a pad and pen and suggest they journal it. Give them alternate ways to express...
This reminds me of people who never ask their friends questions. Do you know anyone like this? They talk about themselves, but never try to draw the other person out by asking questions about the activities or thoughts of the other person.
I hate that and it seems like so many people are that way! They don't even care about the other people around them!
I think some people can't process internally, and they process aloud. I find people who do this are sometimes the same people who ask rhetorical (for the rest of us) questions or talk their way through issues while everyone else has to wait and listen.
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