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I mean people you meet who never let you get a word in. Those people who go on and on about themselves, their lives, their families, their jobs, etc etc. Why can't people understand it takes two to have a conversation? I am sick of meeting people who think they don't need to hear anything I have to say. And even when I do get in a word or two, they always bring the conversation back to them. Not all that stuff is interesting to me and I just nod my head and they go on and on.
I do have trouble getting out of these encounters. I don't like to be rude but good grief. It isn't all about you all the time.
OP, you can get away at any point you want, all you have to do is say "It's been great chatting with you but I need to carry on with my day" then turn around and walk away.
This way you have turned the table and made it *all about you*.
Yes, I can think of two people I know who are like that. It wouldn't matter if it were me or someone else standing there ... They would just continue talking without regard for who is listening. It's certainly not reciprocal.
If you're talking about in a dating setting, Barb, then I would call behavior like that a warning.
I mean people you meet who never let you get a word in. Those people who go on and on about themselves, their lives, their families, their jobs, etc etc. Why can't people understand it takes two to have a conversation? I am sick of meeting people who think they don't need to hear anything I have to say. And even when I do get in a word or two, they always bring the conversation back to them. Not all that stuff is interesting to me and I just nod my head and they go on and on.
I do have trouble getting out of these encounters. I don't like to be rude but good grief. It isn't all about you all the time.
The funny thing is I always hear people complain about talkers.
I'm not sure if you're referring to EXTREME cases of what you describe, but in my experience, talkers are much more popular than persons who prefer an equal exchange.
Perhaps it's because they can always keep the conversation alive or can make people laugh with their crazy stories. People want to be entertained and don't like awkward gaps.
For example, I work with a guy who lives for working groups of people with his wild and crazy stories. Most of the conversation you get in just redirects him to his next wild story.
My conversations are more even... "What did you do this weekend?" "Oh, you like that kind of music?"
If you're just "meeting" them, it implies they're new, and you beat a retreat after the one-sided conversation is over. If it's someone you'll be spending time with, you point out the imbalance.
I tend to run on but being with my other half has cured me. LORD that man can talk! No matter what is said, he flips it to be about him. Unless it criticism of him, then he flips it to be someone else's fault. ugh
Got a friend of this nature. God bless her for feeling the need to over express and detail her dilly dallies...
I listen ..Because..There was a time where her quietness led her to a dark era..
Now when she yaks ...I know to just nod. Yup..And a few..Who was that again? ..
To let her know I care.
If it's a complete stranger a quick exit stage right works...
I mean people you meet who never let you get a word in. Those people who go on and on about themselves, their lives, their families, their jobs, etc etc. Why can't people understand it takes two to have a conversation? I am sick of meeting people who think they don't need to hear anything I have to say. And even when I do get in a word or two, they always bring the conversation back to them. Not all that stuff is interesting to me and I just nod my head and they go on and on.
I do have trouble getting out of these encounters. I don't like to be rude but good grief. It isn't all about you all the time.
There's even a few on CD!
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