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It's not really rude. Perhaps it's a compliment that he felt close enough to you to say that.
And your response was fine. You can now just call him up and say, "Did you decide about whether you'd like to go out to dinner on your birthday? Please let us know so we can make plans."
I would think that, but he just talked to my mate and said that he wanted to go to the most expensive restaurant in town....as well as complained that we weren't going to have him over.
Ok, now he's being rude. I'd given him the benefit of the doubt before, thinking maybe he wants homemade cooking (does he know you don't cook?), but now he's being a pain in the rear.
I have no advice. Good luck!
It's not really rude. Perhaps it's a compliment that he felt close enough to you to say that.
I agree. Or, perhaps there was a misunderstanding, as in, he is aware of the mid-wk b'day & was inviting himself over for a b'day drink, not dinner... still, who knows.
If it's not already straightened out, you might respond via email or phone call that you'd like to take him to ABC (his favorite restaurant) on xxx day/time & if he doesn't have plans, you'd be delighted.
Anyway, you're wonderful friends. I'd love for someone to be thinking of me in such a way on my b'day. It's in 6-mos, if anyone wonders... I'm available!
ETA: Oh, oops, just saw your last post. He doesn't seem appreciative, so perhaps consider doing what will least put you out, since you've already offered (with the understanding that it may be your last b'day treat to him) & don't worry about him. Single & 40... I'm beginning to see why. Maybe his best b'day present will be a good stern talkin' to.
I would think that, but he just talked to my mate and said that he wanted to go to the most expensive restaurant in town....as well as complained that we weren't going to have him over.
With friends like that, who needs enemies?
I'm rather blunt when it comes to personal relationships, with that kind of thing I'd be calling them up and say that given the confusion, other plans fell into place and maybe everyone can get together some other time in the future. I'd then wait for THEM to plan it.
Thankfully I've culled those kinds of 'friends' from my life. Too much work.
I'm kind of surprised that so many people don't see this as not only rude, but obnoxious. Who the hell invites themselves over to someone else's house for dinner???
I'm rather blunt when it comes to personal relationships, with that kind of thing I'd be calling them up and say that given the confusion, other plans fell into place and maybe everyone can get together some other time in the future. I'd then wait for THEM to plan it.
Thankfully I've culled those kinds of 'friends' from my life. Too much work.
What's with these friends (Hello, I want you to entertain me in your home) and relatives (Hello, I will be staying in your home for three weeks at Christmas) that you know who always demand to have things their way?
Take him to Burger King. I think they'll still do it "your way" and it will be a fast evening.
How do you have enough time to take him to a restaurant when you are *so busy* but do not have time to fix a meal at your home?
Because taking someone to dinner only requires getting in your car (taxi, bus, etc), sitting down, eating, and saying good night. Having someone over requires cleaning up beforehand, cooking or ordering food, setting up the food/drinks, cleaning up afterwards, etc. Having guests over is MUCH more time-consuming and physically draining than simply going to a restaurant. Why do you think busy people/families eat out more often than dining at home, even if it ends up costing more money?
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