Living with a couple=pure hell(venting) (girlfriend, female, male)
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So I have a good job where I live. I'm not wanting to buy property just yet since I don't plan on living in my state long term(2 more years max). I'm living with a female roommate and we get along great. We've been living together for 2.5 years. About a year ago, she starts dating this guy(he's cool). He recently lost his job and has been unemployed for 3-4 months. Now he's living with us! Since he doesn't have a job, he's not paying a share of rent or utilities. Everything was awesome when it was just me and her living there since I'm not a huge fan of living with several people. I spoke to my roommate about this and she understands my frustration. On top of that, I have to deal with the:
- always one or the other is home, if not both. I get no privacy anymore.
-my car is always getting blocked in the driveway by her bf. Her and I had an agreement that I get the driveway, and she gets the master bedroom with bathroom. Now he's in the picture and doesn't understand this arrangement.
- I NEVER get to watch TV anymore. They are always hogging the couch and TV. They watch anime and play videogames(these people are in their mid to late 30's btw).
-The kitchen is always a mess. Always dirty dishes.
-when I come home from work, I get the pleasure of seeing him running the air conditioner and watching TV(with no job).
-besides my room, I have no use of the common areas anymore. Their crap is everywhere.
-utilities are higher. Because one or the other is always home. The house is never empty.
-we aren't splitting rent in 1/3. I'm paying half of the rent and utilities. She's paying the other half(I'm assuming) since he doesn't have a job. How is this fair to me when I'm reduced down to just my room?
-the bring the party home. When they are out at bars, they bring their drunk asses home along with their drunk ass friends. They are all loud, drunk and obnoxious and I can't get sleep(again, they are in their mid and late 30's).
The living situation has changed alot. When it was just me and my roommate, it was awesome. Not anymore. And I noticed how lazy she has become since hes been living there. Besides from complaining about her job, all they do is eat, play videogames or watch Japanese cartoons. When they are not out getting wasted somewhere.
I know, I'm working on getting my own place. I'm just venting.
From the outside looking in, is that what being a couple is all about? Becoming lazy slobs who just do stupid things together? I don't see love and passion in their relationship. Just best friends that screw. Good thing I'm not in a relationship anymore 😂😂
So I have a good job where I live. I'm not wanting to buy property just yet since I don't plan on living in my state long term(2 more years max). I'm living with a female roommate and we get along great. We've been living together for 2.5 years. About a year ago, she starts dating this guy(he's cool). He recently lost his job and has been unemployed for 3-4 months. Now he's living with us! Since he doesn't have a job, he's not paying a share of rent or utilities. Everything was awesome when it was just me and her living there since I'm not a huge fan of living with several people. I spoke to my roommate about this and she understands my frustration. On top of that, I have to deal with the:
- always one or the other is home, if not both. I get no privacy anymore.
-my car is always getting blocked in the driveway by her bf. Her and I had an agreement that I get the driveway, and she gets the master bedroom with bathroom. Now he's in the picture and doesn't understand this arrangement.
- I NEVER get to watch TV anymore. They are always hogging the couch and TV. They watch anime and play videogames(these people are in their mid to late 30's btw).
-The kitchen is always a mess. Always dirty dishes.
-when I come home from work, I get the pleasure of seeing him running the air conditioner and watching TV(with no job).
-besides my room, I have no use of the common areas anymore. Their crap is everywhere.
-utilities are higher. Because one or the other is always home. The house is never empty.
-we aren't splitting rent in 1/3. I'm paying half of the rent and utilities. She's paying the other half(I'm assuming) since he doesn't have a job. How is this fair to me when I'm reduced down to just my room?
-the bring the party home. When they are out at bars, they bring their drunk asses home along with their drunk ass friends. They are all loud, drunk and obnoxious and I can't get sleep(again, they are in their mid and late 30's).
The living situation has changed alot. When it was just me and my roommate, it was awesome. Not anymore. And I noticed how lazy she has become since hes been living there. Besides from complaining about her job, all they do is eat, play videogames or watch Japanese cartoons. When they are not out getting wasted somewhere.
I know, I'm working on getting my own place. I'm just venting.
From the outside looking in, is that what being a couple is all about? Becoming lazy slobs who just do stupid things together? I don't see love and passion in their relationship. Just best friends that screw. Good thing I'm not in a relationship anymore ����
You have to be firm and state he cannot stay. Period. You have an agreement to live with one other person. Sure the bf should be able to come over, but living there is completely unacceptable. . In reality, you're probably breaking your lease agreement right now by having someone in the house for more than a few weeks.
Can she afford the place by herself? If she cant, you might want to have a "talk" with her and explain that if things don't change you might have to go else where. Maybe that would scare her into making it right.
You have to be firm and state he cannot stay. Period. You have an agreement to live with one other person. Sure the bf should be able to come over, but living there is completely unacceptable. . In reality, you're probably breaking your lease agreement right now by having someone in the house for more than a few weeks.
Stop being a pushover
Not being a pushover. I've stated the way I feel already. I don't care that he's living there. What I care about is him getting whatever job he can a paying his portion of bills. Maybe I should come down harder on my roommate to push him more. It's not my place to relate that message to him. I'm not his girlfriend, nor did I invite him to live with us.
Tough situation, and I am not sure there is much you can do. If she did not want to continue the relationship with this person, he likely would not be there. So, if push came to shove, she likely would choose her relationship over her roommate.
Bad situation for you, but really, just make the best of it until you find other living arrangements and can get out. By the sounds of it, things are not likely to improve soon.
Yup! I'm working on it. Once I saw him there for 2 weeks straight, I knew something was up.
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