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I don't like what this world is turning into, everyone just seems scared or worried about everything now. I think it's sad that it's come to this point.
It is unfortunate that people are so wary, but you have to respect those boundaries.
There IS a reason that kids and adults can't be friends, and that is because it is an unequal relationship. You can't be friends with someone when there is not a balance of power.
It is unfortunate that people are so wary, but you have to respect those boundaries.
There IS a reason that kids and adults can't be friends, and that is because it is an unequal relationship. You can't be friends with someone when there is not a balance of power.
What about hanging out with the kid AND his mom? His mom and I have become good friends.
What about hanging out with the kid AND his mom? His mom and I have become good friends.
That would be your best bet, just to avoid the appearance of impropriety. But you have to be careful about boundaries with kids.
He could get confused.
Are you a friend?
Are you a babysitter?
Are you dating his mom?
If you're hanging out with his mom hoping to get with her, you need to understand that it could be very confusing and painful for the son, who could lose yet another father figure if you and the mom stop seeing each other for whatever reason.
That would be your best bet, just to avoid the appearance of impropriety. But you have to be careful about boundaries with kids.
He could get confused.
Are you a friend?
Are you a babysitter?
Are you dating his mom?
If you're hanging out with his mom hoping to get with her, you need to understand that it could be very confusing and painful for the son, who could lose yet another father figure if you and the mom stop seeing each other for whatever reason.
Just be cautious, please.
I have no plans on dating her, I see her as a friend.
This. And the mom might seem nice now, but what if things change later on?
I have liability concerns regarding caring for other's children and decided long ago, not to do that, even if I was paid for babysitting. That's just me and others can disagree with it, but I have to run my life the way I see fit. Even when my daughter has play dates at our house, they are limited and she isn't allowed to have kids sleep over. Accidents can happen, things can go wrong.
Recently, there were a couple of kids in the neighborhood who would come over to our house after school and hang out; their parents didn't even know where they were. It turned into a daily habit, and I had to put a stop to it. I don't want the responsibility of parenting other people's children.
I have those same concerns. Used to be, I'd think nothing of watching a neighbor's kid, or volunteering with kids - scouts, church groups, etc.
Today? No more. I would only do things like that through an agency. If it's church, check my background - PLEASE. Many do, but not all.
It's sad, but it's the way things are now. A false allegation can ruin your world.
I'm 22 and I don't think I could possible consider anybody under 17, maybe 16 a friend.
I don't think there's anything wrong with taking this kid out to do stuff since you know his mom, but I don't know if he can actually be your "friend". I'm pretty much the same age as you and I don't know how I could possibly connect with an 11 year old beyond something like video games or music.
The kid is too young to be your friend. The mom is too old to be your friend.
I think there is more to this story or you wouldn't have posted. I would look at you the same as I look at a Little League coach or scoutmaster that doesn't have children, very suspiciously.
Not in todays world people talk and say things and the next thing you know someone is getting arrested . Grown people have to be very careful even saying hello to kids now .
The kid is too young to be your friend. The mom is too old to be your friend.
I think there is more to this story or you wouldn't have posted. I would look at you the same as I look at a Little League coach or scoutmaster that doesn't have children, very suspiciously.
Same here,thinkalot.....years ago I barely rescued my son and his best friend from a LL coach that had started giving gifts to some of the kids and had invited them to the movies with him.
He was a volunteer assistant coach in his 20's that lived at home with his mom.Local PD had some suspicions about him so I confronted him one day at the ball bark and he resigned almost immediately.
I later found out that he was serving time in another state for a violent rape of a child.
His name is Brian Devries.......now residing in California as a registered sex offender.Not afraid to put his name out there because it's a matter of public record
It's not appropriate. Age appropriate relationships are important to respect. Just too many things can go wrong. Too, adults and children are in 2 different eras of life and have too little in common to have that kind of "friend" relationship. Not a good idea at all.
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