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For the past few years, I have had men make really rude and uncalled for comments about how I look. It is a strange issue that no one else I have spoken to deals with, not even people that are legitimately considered unattractive even by themselves.
I have had men at work (ages 30+) tell me to my face that I am ugly for no reason and completely out of the blue. Last month I had a coworker tell me I am a plain jane. He doesn't shower, comb his hair or clean his ears but he needed to let me know I wasn't attractive for no reason one day. I was nice and pleasant towards him, so his comment came across as an insult. He was very abusive to my work time with his constant chatter and need for attention. If my headphones were on, he would basically tap me on the shoulder to talk. I finally told my manager what he was doing and he was moved to another room.
I have been out to eat and teenage boys will yell I am ugly loud enough so I can hear it as I walk by. I noticed that they did not seem to do that to any of the other women there were plenty with varying looks. Since these are kids, I will give them a pass.
On dating websites, after sifting through the endless emails, there always seems to be the one person asking if I am transgender or just thought he would tell me I am ugly. But, I think that is unfortunately the nature of online dating.
I am legitimately not ugly. I have done some modeling work in the past I am still approached to model for photographers. I am honestly baffled why men are always trying to tell me I am ugly or extremely average for literally no reason. I have told this to some of my friends and my fiance, and they all laugh because it sounds absurd and ridiculous, but this happens to me all the time. As a matter of fact, it only seems to get worse with age.
And not to make this a male vs. female thing, but these comments only come from men. Comments like that have never come from women. I am 35 years old so I am really confused why this is still happening.
I have never posted my photo in this forum. After having my photos on dating sites and having people find me on Facebook, please understand why I don't feel comfortable with that suggestion. But what I am saying is true. I am not ugly.
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I have never posted my photo in this forum. After having my photos on dating sites and having people find me on Facebook, please understand why I don't feel comfortable with that suggestion. But what I am saying is true. I am not ugly.
I agree you're not probably ugly. I would suggest you are very off-putting. Something about your appearance makes people insult you.
You are obviously not a troll - you have been here awhile.
You are clearly not unattractive, as you have modeled before.
Let me guess this. You dress yourself up in a way that attracts public comments from strangers - very flashy?
Otherwise, I have no idea what is going on.
No, I don't dress flashy. I wear the same clothes most women wear-jeans, tops, sneakers or boots. But, there is something about my appearance that draws attention. I have very high cheekbones and small eyes since my mom is half-Japanese. But, that to me should not be an issue.
I agree. I'm really struggling with this story, except she has so many posts she's not just trolling.
Something is not being said here.
No, that is it. I am quiet and I keep to myself. I am also quiet pleasant especially at work. So it doesn't make sense to me either. I have been told that some men do something called "negging" which is putting a woman down to improve their chances with her sexually. I still don't understand that concept. Please note, I am not suggesting that is why all men do it. I don't know anything about it, someone told me about it.
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Originally Posted by jabber_wocky
No, I don't dress flashy. I wear the same clothes most women wear-jeans, tops, sneakers or boots. But, there is something about my appearance that draws attention. I have very high cheekbones and small eyes since my mom is half-Japanese. But, that to me should not be an issue.
I'm out. No idea, sorry. You're missing some dynamic of what is going on. This wouldn't be a mystery to someone who could look at a full body picture of you, although obviously everyone understands that you don't want to post one.
No one believes me that is why when I tell my friends and others they laugh-people think I am making this up?
This happens to me on a regular basis. I don't believe I look off-putting, but I do look unique because of my ethnic background. I am pleasant and I am kind,but men feel the need to put me down for no reasons and out of the blue. I am not lying.
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