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My guy friend was messing up with me and I was doing the same, but seems like he didn't like it. I have a habit of sleeping super early and waking up early and he always makes fun of me calling me an infant. He has done this multiple times. Whereas he sleeps very late at night and keeps texting with girls. So to make fun of him too, I jokingly said - night owl, hope you are having fun texting late at night.
Seems like he didn't like it, he said "I don't know what you think of me but whatever". I just wanted to apologize if I offended him and not talk about it again.
Does this sound ok - "Sorry, I didn't mean to hurt/offend you. Was just messing up with you"?
Asking since english is not my first language and I don't want to spoil our friendship.
OPtismisticStar does quite well with the english language. So the word I would confer to is:
ridiculous!
I recall being told, we only need clean up our side of the street. Meaning, step up to the part a person played in the dialogue. Well good thing I stopped listening to that misguided undertaking.
This Person was chiding you , and I'm sure it was un-nerving to be demeaned. So you reciprocated.
My advice is to NOT apologize first. Instead feed HIM bread crumbs of ...."Hmmmm...and I'll think about it " .
I have yet to meet a man yet that ever has said he was hurt by what I said. They just don't direct their emotions or concerns in such a manner. Most times it comes out though ....in a Hey! Lets not go there fashion ...which usually means I need to look at how I may had been the cause of their "shut down" mode.
Has this friend of yours been given a mirror to see how his words came off?
I think we need to know--is he your boyfriend, as in you're involved romantically, or is he just a friend? "Guy friend" could mean a lot of things.
Short English lesson, in the spirit of trying to help: If someone wants to say they were joking, they use the words "I was messing with you." (Though, truthfully, only very young English speakers say this. It's very much youth slang.)
We don't say "messing up with you." "Messing up" means you're making mistakes. Here's an example:
"I am trying to knit a blanket, but I keep messing up."
"Messing with" (notice the word up is gone) means to joke around with. Older people using this slang say "I was messing around with you." Only in the past few years have younger people dropped the around part of the phrase.
I know, there's no logic to any of it. The word "mess" itself has several meanings. Sorry English is the most nonsensical language! I admire anyone who learns as much of it as you have.
Wait, what? He spends late nights texting other women, but YOU want to apologize to him?!
Sorry, there are no words in the English language for that, lol.
Lol. Yeah he does, but he is not my boyfriend. I just don't like making anyone upset, so just wanted to apologize and then stay away from making fun of him. This however has affected how our friendship would be going further coz as per him he can make fun of me, but he doesn't like it if I do the same thing.
OPtismisticStar does quite well with the english language. So the word I would confer to is:
ridiculous!
I recall being told, we only need clean up our side of the street. Meaning, step up to the part a person played in the dialogue. Well good thing I stopped listening to that misguided undertaking.
This Person was chiding you , and I'm sure it was un-nerving to be demeaned. So you reciprocated.
My advice is to NOT apologize first. Instead feed HIM bread crumbs of ...."Hmmmm...and I'll think about it " .
I have yet to meet a man yet that ever has said he was hurt by what I said. They just don't direct their emotions or concerns in such a manner. Most times it comes out though ....in a Hey! Lets not go there fashion ...which usually means I need to look at how I may had been the cause of their "shut down" mode.
Has this friend of yours been given a mirror to see how his words came off?
He is not a close friend and just know him since a year. His this behavior seemed a bit childish/immature to me. I just wanted to apologize since I don't like upsetting anyone, but definitely affected our friendship. Might not be as friendly with him as I used to.
I think we need to know--is he your boyfriend, as in you're involved romantically, or is he just a friend? "Guy friend" could mean a lot of things.
Short English lesson, in the spirit of trying to help: If someone wants to say they were joking, they use the words "I was messing with you." (Though, truthfully, only very young English speakers say this. It's very much youth slang.)
We don't say "messing up with you." "Messing up" means you're making mistakes. Here's an example:
"I am trying to knit a blanket, but I keep messing up."
"Messing with" (notice the word up is gone) means to joke around with. Older people using this slang say "I was messing around with you." Only in the past few years have younger people dropped the around part of the phrase.
I know, there's no logic to any of it. The word "mess" itself has several meanings. Sorry English is the most nonsensical language! I admire anyone who learns as much of it as you have.
He is just a friend. Nothing romantic between us.
Haha yeah, I always use "messing up" instead of "messing with" or "messing around".
Wait, what? He spends late nights texting other women, but YOU want to apologize to him?!
Sorry, there are no words in the English language for that, lol.
I think these two are JUST platonic friends...right OP?
English NOT being her first language, she's not sure how to proceed.
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