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My twin sister. She is a wonderful person with many great qualities. She is a dedicated CPA who works tirelessly for her company. She is a kind and caring person. She spends a small fortune on rescue animals.
Her addiction is cigarettes. She is a chain smoker. This has been going on for 25 years. It is hard to be around her because of the constant smoking. Do not even get me started on what it is like riding in the car with her. The chain smoking impacts her relationships with others and she refuses to quit smoking.
She was just diagnosed with mild to moderate COPD. She blames it on her allergies. Seriously.
It pains me to watch her continue to harm her body in this manner. My grandmother was a smoker who died from lung cancer.
For my family, the addictive substance is "food". No kidding, I lost an older sister from kidney failure and diabetes, due to years of untreated high blood pressure from being overweight her whole life, I've often thought of it as "suicide by spoon". In "Million Dollar Baby", the main character said "Trouble comes by the pound" in her family. I knew just where she was coming from, but have put up a pretty good fight on my own front. If I didn't watch myself, I could easily be a "three hundred pounder", but am currently holding the line at only two.
You know that chocolate mousse at Jason's deli? Well, if you slather it over the sliced apples, it's probably the best tasting thing you've ever put in your pie-hole, and yeah, I'm addicted. And that's from eating at a place with a salad bar, while trying to eat more healthily! Addictions come in many shapes and sizes, that's for sure.
If you choose to understand and believe in a Spiritual lifestyle, there is a "generational curse" spirit that can and will flow through the family lines if not acknowledged and abolished. The solution to this evil spirit is began by a "breaking the cycle" prayer and further education and knowledge of this spirit is needed. Anyone who has lived in recovery communities will understand what I am saying. The addiction spirit can and will come in many, many forms.....I personally have a family full of addictive personalities in many areas of addiction....one is no different than the other. I hope this helps you to understand your situation and allows you to process the misunderstanding better...
One of my brothers is considered "a chronic user" of pot. He's an everyday, multiple times a day user, but it hasn't messed up his life at all.
He's married with a grown son, and managed to put his son into a good college, nice house, good relationships with family...all the good stuff.
He's the only example of family that comes close to having addiction issues, that I can think of. And...he doesn't really have issues. lol
My fiance is addicted to pot. He smokes everyday, several times a day. It's one reason he wants to move West, other than a desire to live in the desert. He works as a framer, and most of his coworkers also use pot on a daily basis. When I told him Nevada had legalized recreational marijuana, he immediately started talking about moving there. Now he's stuck on SoCal - namely, the inland empire. We've found cheap fixer upper properties there though our plan now is to buy an rv first, then get a plot of desert land to build a cabin on in the future.
A lot of his family have overdosed from narcotics since we've been together (6 years). His half sister lives in a tent with her bf; they both smoke Meth.
As for other addictions, there have been close family members of mine who abused cocaine (an aunt OD'd from it 31 years ago), crack, Meth, and especially alcohol. Most of the older ones smoke heavily (I had a cousin who died at 50 from throat cancer). I don't mind pot, but hard drugs & alcoholism are not habits I want around me.
I think one reason I want to put as much distance between my family and me is the ongoing hard drinking and begging for money to keep up that drunken lifestyle. I tried helping my mom years ago but all I did was waste my time and money. Same with my brother. He even paid her gas bill last year & she still owes him a few hundred dollars. She and her husband would rather get drunk than stay warm, I guess. As for my 'father', I don't communicate with him at all. He made his choices back in the 70s.
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Brother in the cemetery (hep C-caused cirrhosis from long-ago heroin use).
Sister, probably alcoholic, quit drinking when diagnosed with liver disease, although she didn't seek any treatment.
Ex-husband, alcoholic, probably undiagnosed bipolar, compulsive gambler, plus drugs--prescription and non--along the way, although he seems to have gotten away from that. Still drinks.
Daughter, alcoholic, in recovery, diagnosed bipolar.
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