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Are you spiritual at all? You might try finding a church that you like, with people who are truly loving and accepting. They are out there.
My God is accepting. That is enough for me. As for church, I have not yet turned down an invitation to go and as long as I am able will continue to visit as many different congregations if I am able.
My God is accepting. That is enough for me. As for church, I have not yet turned down an invitation to go and as long as I am able will continue to visit as many different congregations if I am able.
If that were true, then whats the point of your thread?
I had skipped over this (unintentionally) in this post and and will take a look at it.
Just realizing also today another thing about my relationships, or non-relationships, with people.
No one ever starts a conversation with me unless they are needing something from me such as a favor. Small talk has always dropped off awkwardly in the first few sentences. It feels like the other person is either uncomfortable or really doesn't have anything to talk with me about.
Just yesterday, a family member (I've got almost none left) said the reason they don't call is because I don't have the same problems as they do (addictions), so talking with me about things they would rather talk about is useless, and I don't have anything of interest they want to listen to.
I don't drink that much. Don't smoke. Never did drugs (other than tried a few times and wasn't impressed). So I'm a square, I suppose. And now maybe I've finally uncovered (with everyone's help, of course) what it is about me that has kept me from fitting in.
I'm no fun. People just can't "let loose" around me because I'm a square and maybe the original "Debbie downer."
Not sure of where to post on this forum but serious question here.
In every single place I have lived, many people have called attention to my looks. Apparently, I'm just not attractive enough to fit in with communities where all the at least minimally attractive people live, and that seems to be just about everywhere these days unless the on the streets, jails, hospitals, and extremely dangerous low-income areas where I don't fit in either. So my question is where in the U.S. do more "homely" (not obese, just plain-jane, loner, awkward and uncoordinated) people live a decent life without being constantly criticized and pushed to move somewhere else by neighbors because most would rather not be forced to see me in public?
This has happened to me in every city and town I have lived since childhood and now once again is starting to make me think about giving up altogether. I like where I am right now - more than anywhere else - yet it's just another place to live. Everyone around me seems to either not understand what I'm doing here, appear offended or suspicious of my presence, and those that do talk to me keep pushing the idea that I should move out to some desert or some cold and rainy part of the country where I don't want to go and unfamiliar with, or places I've been but stayed sick and did not fit in either. It's come to the point that I just can't figure out what about me makes other people so uncomfortable, especially since I'm not bothering anyone, keep mostly to myself and do my own thing.
I wonder where you go to where people go out of their way to harass you and tell you that they don't want you here...because of your looks?
I'd say it's your awkwardness and coordination that might be making people uncomfortable and rather opposed to you being there.
Are you perhaps in a high income area (they tend to have some of the more rude types in my experience. They often are the ones that will try to run you out.)?
People have actually sat me down to have a conversation about my looks and why I don't seem to fit in wherever I am at the moment. I do think a lot of this comes from my growing up on military bases without siblings, other family, and because I have always been so unusual, have not made even one lasting close friendship. I have had friends, but never one I would consider best or closest, not would anyone consider me their closest friend. I am literally in this life alone. It just doesn't help at all when everyone seems to find something wrong with who I am, and I can't figure out what it is about me that makes so many people want me to just go away as if my existence is hurting them in some way.
Honestly, this sounds very alien to me.
Sounds like you are around some extremely shallow people if they are that offended by your looks to the point that they just want you gone.
And this happens everywhere you go?
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