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Old 11-21-2019, 06:19 PM
 
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How would you approach someone on via text you've recently had a bit of a misunderstanding with? Parted on not so grand terms. I've been half tempted to simply write 'can I talk with you' leaving the ball in their court as they say.

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Old 11-22-2019, 03:15 AM
 
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It depends. If I don't have to have a relationship with that person, I don't contact them again. But if it is somebody I do have to interact with, like a relative, then the next time I reach out to them, it will be for their benefit. For example, my next text would be, "How are you?" And I would not bring up the last conversation again.
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Old 11-22-2019, 04:51 AM
 
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I'd reach out and say something to the effect of "I'm feeling badly about our recent conversation. Can we talk?"


This kind of gives them an idea of what's in your mind and might make it easier.
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Old 11-22-2019, 06:24 AM
 
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How about making an actual phone call? Why a text?
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Old 11-22-2019, 06:25 AM
 
Location: Texas
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How about making an actual phone call? Why a text?
One further - how about in person?
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Old 11-22-2019, 10:08 AM
 
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What’s the intention behind your wanting to reach out?
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Old 11-22-2019, 10:42 AM
 
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It depends on what your relationship with them was. Were you friends, acquaintances, dating...? And how large was the misunderstanding?

Would something like, "Hey, I miss talking to you! Do you have time for a phone call today?" work?

I also tend to overthink these types of situations... I would say that most of the time, the other person has forgotten about the incident or never brings it up. It depends on what happened, though; trading a snarky remark or two in an otherwise friendly relationship would probably be forgiven and forgotten without really discussing it. Or maybe a "sorry our last conversation ended on a poor note." Having an affair with your friend's spouse would require a different approach.
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