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When you know in your deepest soul that the person isn’t really a friend.
When the only time they connect with you is when they are in need.
When they have let you down every time you have counted on them and you have never let them down.....
But they really are lonely, or have health issues, and have run out of resources and they need your money, or for you to stop you life to take care of them — yes you have the ability to provide these things.
hHw do you deal with the struggle between compassion, enjoying your own life and preserving your own inner balance? I’m floundering.......and wondering why I feel guilt by avoiding this person’s phone calls.
You feel guilty because you actually cared about the person despite them treating you like they have.Now it's up to YOU to cut them out of your life.You must do this or else you will only be hurting yourself more and more.Love yourself before anyone and it will become easier to cut people like this(users)out of your life.It happens to a lot of us.You're not alone in this.
That’s what I have been doing for the past decade..... Thing is, she’ll still reach out and every time she does its never to check in and ask how I’m doing or just chat. Always wants something from me. So, she still sees me as a resource.
Why don't you just ask her why she only comes around when she wants something?
Then stop giving her stuff. That is not a friendship and you are not social services.
when my ex told me she was tired of dealing with me LOL and she was treated good to. i simply told her the same thing and then told her i'm cutting my ties with you and hung up!!! simple as that
If you stop providing money, rides, health care, meals, whatever it is that they need from you, you will soon find that they cut themselves from your life as they go to find someone else to leech off of. You won't have to cut them from your life, they will do it.
Users are pretty good at finding some one to use. They are also very accustomed to being cut off or refused and they deal with that easily because they have had lots of practice with being turned down.
Give it a try. You can still visit, provide company, but close up your wallet and the taxi service and see what happens.
hell oregon
i wouldn't even bother to visit them as that might open up another can of worms!!! no thanks i'll run i'll run like hell like my hair was on fire first
Lack of other friends can cause someone to remain with a person who is bad for them. The constant emphasis in our society on "forgiveness" can also make someone feel shame and guilt for cutting a person out of their life. They will be accused of holding a grudge if they cut someone out of their life.
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