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Wait, you have told lies about him to your mother to purposely try to get her to hate him??? Why would you do that? That is majorly screwed up.
She already disliked him. That's nothing new and her ''I'll start to like him'' was a lie.
As soon as I fully recovered from my surgery, she reverted to a negative comments about him and admitted to never regretting making him cry once long ago, boasting about how proud she was in doing it. She brought it all back and in doing so, brought back the hurt/resentment I was trying to forget. I pretty much snapped. This is what I was thinking in mind at that moment:
''Sc*** this fake truce then, fine so you hate him and always will, then continue hating him. I don't care anymore if you guys don't get along; I'll have him all to myself now.''
I don't expect them to be great friends but like someone else mentioned, be cordial at least. She wasn't even doing that.
I'll make things right though. I do feel crappy about it though.
She already disliked him. That's nothing new and her ''I'll start to like him'' was a lie.
As soon as I fully recovered from my surgery, she reverted to a negative comments about him and admitted to never regretting making him cry once long ago, boasting about how proud she was in doing it. She brought it all back and in doing so, brought back the hurt/resentment I was trying to forget. I pretty much snapped. This is what I was thinking in mind at that moment:
''Sc*** this fake truce then, fine so you hate him and always will, then continue hating him. I don't care anymore if you guys don't get along; I'll have him all to myself now.''
I don't expect them to be great friends but like someone else mentioned, be cordial at least. She wasn't even doing that.
I'll make things right though. I do feel crappy about it though.
You are the only person I know who deliberately made a bad situation worse instead of trying to improve it, who decided to make everyone in their life even more miserable.
Why are you worried about "having him all to yourself"? Is your mom trying to pull a Mrs. Robinson on you and take your boyfriend or something?
There isn't enough "WTF" for this whole situation. It can't be real. And if it is, methinks professional help is in order.
Why are you worried about "having him all to yourself"? Is your mom trying to pull a Mrs. Robinson on you and take your boyfriend or something?
This might sound twisted but within my anger, I was thinking of assuring she has very limited contact with my child should we ever have one as well as future social gatherings. Then the plan was making her believe that he's behind that and watch (while eating some popcorn) both sides continue the neverending feud. I was basically declaring a type of war on her at that moment for all the previous meddling and hurt feelings.....for ruining my relationship in the past. Sometimes I even blamed her for us not being married by now. We would've had a family already if it wasn't for her meddling. He was hurt once (long ago) and wanted to nearly give up the relationship because of her.
However, I'm not proceeding with it anymore. I will not tell him about it as that would be a total lost for me. I'll solve this issue instead and as I mentioned, make things right. This is my real life.
Someone mentioned again about the online trolling confession I've made somewhere in mid 2019. What does that have to do with my current situation? I'm talking about part of my life now.
I was thinking of assuring she has very limited contact with my child should we ever have one as well as future social gatherings. Then the plan was making her believe that he's behind that and watch (while eating some popcorn) both sides continue the neverending feud.
Whoa, girl, you have issues. If you want to estrange yourself from your mother, put on your big girl panties and do it. Don't "blame it on the boyfriend."
BTW, with this behavior, you might as well kiss that boyfriend goodbye. Ain't no way he's going to stay with this level of manipulation, so all of this is for naught.
You stepped in the ***** on purpose and should really figure out why you do that.
Someone mentioned again about the online trolling confession I've made somewhere in mid 2019. What does that have to do with my current situation? I'm talking about part of my life now.
It speaks to a pattern of negative, careless and self-sabotaging behaviour.
At age 31, that should have been your goal many years ago. Why is this year any different?
I'm 32 now. I couldn't do it because I didn't have enough money. I'm still saving. All my money went towards college (I finish it at a late age of 28) and my surgery last year.
I have to admit, perhaps I should've spent it on moving out and then college. Oh well. I now have to save again.
When you give into the temptation of lying to get yourself off the hook, or in order to manipulate someone, you are deadening your conscience. You are also destroying your credibility and trustworthiness.
The greatest damage is to yourself. Lying for gain is soul deadening. My advice is to tell the truth especially when you are tempted to lie your way out of an uncomfortable situation.
OP, I’m glad you’ e tried to make things right. Perhaps you need to ask yourself why you feel the need to manipulate people. This is akin to lying. Manipulation is a form of dishonesty.
Perhaps you need to do some self reflection?
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