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Things change when people get married. It's normal. Though friends are still important, spouses and then children become higher priority. Also, adults have less time to socialize as their responsibilities increase. It sounds like your friend still values your friendship, but you will probably put it in jeopardy if you speak badly about his wife or insist on more of his time than he has to offer at this point in life.
In reading all of these, I don't see the perspective of, what if the sexes were reversed and it was the man keeping the wife from seeing old friends alone once they got married? What would we be saying then?
DK, buddy, bring this up with your therapist. She can help you unravel the twisted threads of your annoyance. TBH, I got lost somewhere in the middle. But that doesn't mean I don't care.
He needs to "help with girls' night"? Really? Like... what is he going to do?
I disagree with pretty much everyone else here. Yes, people need friendships and social times away from their relationship/significant other. That's normal and healthy. Assuming he's not neglecting things at home-- like he's always going out with his friends and sticking her with the kid and she never gets any time off-- and that him hanging out with his friends doesn't involve going to strip clubs or gambling away their money, there's nothing wrong with him having friendships that don't include her.
Yeah, she's a little clingy. Unfortunately, probably not much you can do about it; he chose her and he's going to have to live with it, unless he or one of her friends are going to try to point out to her that a person can have a life outside of their relationship. Sounds like it's time for you to cultivate new people to hang out with so it doesn't matter if you don't hang out with him.
I disagree with pretty much everyone else here. Yes, people need friendships and social times away from their relationship/significant other. That's normal and healthy.
I didn't say I agreed with what's going on in his friend's relationship. I think it's unhealthy, but the OP can't control that situation. He can, however, control his reaction to it.
The guy probably doesn't want to upset his wife. He could stand up for himself if he wanted to.
In reading all of these, I don't see the perspective of, what if the sexes were reversed and it was the man keeping the wife from seeing old friends alone once they got married? What would we be saying then?
If either spouse was keeping the other from doing what they want that would be a problem.
We have no reason to believe that is the case here. Sometimes relationships just wear out.
You won't win trying to diss his wife to get your points across.
That's his wife. She comes first.
Maybe try to find someone else to do your boys night thing with and realize that this couple is for couples times only (if he still wants to be friends with you after you insulted his wife).
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