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1. Co-workers: they want work from you, and income.
2. Significant others, children and sometimes parents: they want financial and other support from you.
3. People at church: they want donations and volunteer hours from you.
4. Others: typically they want something from you- career benefits, money, something.
Even our pets want rubs, walks, food, etc. from us.
How many people are you close to who don't want anything at all from you?
This is the kind of question that sheds more light on the person doing the asking than it actually reveals about human nature. Think of it as a litmus test. In that sense, you tend to think of the world in transactional terms, as in 'I do this, I get this.' That makes for kind of a bleak world, I have to say.
At work, my time and skills are traded for fair wages. It's a transaction I've opted into.
My kids are grown and making a lot of money, married to people who also make a lot of money.
I stopped going to church, but happily supported it when I did. It was something I wanted to do, to give back to that community.
My friends expect nothing but friendship.
When someone needs something that I can help with, and some are strangers who expected nothing from me, I view it as a blessing and feel much gratitude for being in a position to help someone else.
Back when I was in my late 30's/early 40's, I was a basically unhappy person. I went through a period where I felt like I was a series of labels. I was a mother. I was an employee. I was a daughter. I was a divorcee. But I felt like no one really knew ME. They only knew the label attached to me.
I kind of feel like whatever you're going through OP...is similar to what I was going through then.
I don't feel like that now. I mean...I still have most of those labels...but they are part of who I AM. So what if my boss only knows the employee side of me? It's OK. So what if my children only see me as their mother? (Actually, my kids are grown, of course our relationship has evolved as they've grown and matured, but STILL I am their MOTHER. I am all those labels, and they are all ME. I'm ok with it now.
At work, my time and skills are traded for fair wages. It's a transaction I've opted into.
My kids are grown and making a lot of money, married to people who also make a lot of money.
I stopped going to church, but happily supported it when I did. It was something I wanted to do, to give back to that community.
My friends expect nothing but friendship.
When someone needs something that I can help with, and some are strangers who expected nothing from me, I view it as a blessing and feel much gratitude for being in a position to help someone else.
That's how you do it. Well said.
OP never came back, wonder why.
Thank you for the kind words, my friend.
Hopefully it's because he's busy filing a lawsuit to get his big loan back.
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