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Here is what your friend said. " "That doesn't sound like a lot of money to me, not any more."
That's an intriguing comment. Coulda shoulda followed up on that, but eh, you were gobsmacked. WHY you were gobsmacked, I don't quite understand. Your friend is an affluent person living in an affluent area. It's not a big shock that she might be out of touch with the reality of average income (or low income) Americans. Pretty sure career congressmen are in the same boat.
I live in that area, not Marin but way across the bay. And about a year and a half or so ago, they were talking about housing prices which are always high here and nothing ever seems to stop them going up until it does. And they interviewed one woman who caused a bit of a kerfuffle over somewhat of a similar kind of remark.
She said that she and her husband earn almost $500,000 a year and are living paycheck to paycheck because it’s just so difficult, between all the things they’re expected to do and have.
And that says a lot because that truly is the typical “keeping up with the Joneses” attitude that screws people over. How could you not have everything you want with plenty of leftover to save on almost $500,000 a year? And yet, they are living paycheck to paycheck. Because that’s what a lot of people do. If they have X coming in they find a way to make ex go out. So they can struggle. Because that’s what they’re used to doing.
And back to the OP? The next question to my friend would’ve been what’s going on in your life. Because that sounded like the opening of somebody going to tell you about something she needs to tell somebody. Instead this woman got indignant and came on here to post about it so several pages later we’re all talking about it.
I also feel like if you really dont think 7 mil is a lot when someone else inherits it then you should probably just keep your mouth shut.
In that case you should have kept your mouth shut. You gossiped about someone else.The person you gossiped to gave her opinion. It is you who were in the wrong.
I mean if I lived in Beverly Hills, Santa Barbara, or Miami, no 7 million wouldn't seem like much at all. If I lived in Edgefield or Abbeville, SC, then 7 million would seem like fortune. It's all about perspective. Not something I would waste a minute of my life over.
It seems you are offended by your friend's upmanship comment with respect to worldliness. You could have simply stated, "for some people, it can be life changing and I am so happy for my friend." Why debate something so immaterial? Redirect the conversation to a more positive affirmation.
Or we could get off our high horse and stop judging her.
She’s clear associating with the kind of people she has removed herself from (evidence is the moves). Not really on us to judge her feelings on affluence. Look at this pragmatically.
She doesn’t like rich people don’t associate with them (where it makes sense of course, sometimes you just have to). I don’t like communities of high crime, homelessness and drug dealing so I avoid those placed and people engaging in those activities.
This is no different. Just the other side of the coin. You may not agree with it. It’s entirely personal. But hopefully you get my logic now.
She removed herself from what? Her wealth? Did she give all her money away and take a vow of poverty?
She may have moved from CA but she’s still wealthy.. she now likes to rub elbows with factory workers and minimum wage earners to show how ‘sensitive she is to their ‘plight’. That’s the high horse she’s sitting on... she likes to think she’s a convert, but until she actually lives like those she’s surrounding herself with, she’s a fake.
I’m judging her and you’re judging the friend... does that make your judgment more acceptable than mine?
And I still say she knew what she was doing when she was bragging about her friend’s 7 million.
In that case you should have kept your mouth shut. You gossiped about someone else.The person you gossiped to gave her opinion. It is you who were in the wrong.
Couldn’t agree more!! There was no need to gossip about one friend to another... that’s just tacky af.
The other day Marin friend and I were talking on the phone and I shared that another friend of mine had just inherited 7 million dollars. Marin friend says, "That doesn't sound like a lot of money to me, not any more." I didn't say anything but I have an urge to call her out. She's never left CA and my dh and I have lived all over the US, having seen a LOT. What would you do? These people who live in bubbles!!
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You are not respecting your friends perspective. In the reality of Marin County $7M is no big deal. In Belvedere the median home price is $4.2M and in Ross it is $4.0M. In Marin county everyone who bought a home twenty years ago and held it has a net worth over a million. Your friend probably has a couple neighbors with a net worth over 100M.
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