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It just seems to me that the point of these gifts are to show appreciation. I really don’t see a big deal about including the cash. A lot of people get a ton of emails or don’t check/read their emails all that often, so it can be easy to miss one.
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Originally Posted by hertfordshire
The easiest thing to do (and least drama-inducing) would be to just include the cash with the cards, and put a small note at the bottom that says "apologies for the cash; some contributions were received after the gift cards were purchased." I'm sure these directors will not be shocked in the least. They deal with the same parents all the time. They know what they're like. It'll probably give them a little chuckle, to be honest.
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Originally Posted by Fiona8484
I'd be super happy to receive a gift card AND cash, but I understand your frustration.
I say take the cash and use it to buy the roses or maybe towards another gift card, to Starbucks maybe? Teachers love their coffee!
I think what you are doing is phenomenal. Teaching has been extraordinarily taxing this year and these folks will probably cry when presented with this generous gift. I know I would!!
Just add the cash to the envelope, or use it to buy flowers.
Refusing it would be mean spirited. I'm glad you're not considering pocketing it yourself; THAT would be tacky!
Did all the other parents contribute? I would guess some shined it on; that seems tackier than contributing late.
I'm all for sticking to the rules/deadlines and so wouldn't fault the OP if the decision was made to not include the cash, but I'm also about making the biggest good with what we have. Perhaps the recipients of the gifts would be snobs about it, but most I know would appreciate the money (no matter the format).
Roses are the traditional gift for directors and could be delivered by the florist if you are not meeting in person. I think any cash or money cards are tacky. Yes they worked hard this year but they did they still have their salary? If so cash is not needed.
I have a number of friends who are public school teachers. I can't imagine any of them agreeing with your statement that cash is not needed. The average teacher salary in North Carolina is $58K, so they're hardly rolling in dough.
1. The card that the cash card will be placed in will be signed by all the kids in the cast, not just those whose parents contributed.
2. There are 27 kids in the cast. Over 20 sets of parents participated and the total amount donated was over $1100 (to be divided three ways).
3. My opinion; cash gift is not tacky. The Directors can choose to spend it on personal items/services OR on stuff for the Theater Department (which, knowing them, they probably will). Totally their choice. Roses are great; cash lasts longer and has a greater impact.
4. My sister was a third-grade teacher, so I know that cash is always welcome to teachers. She always used to say that if she got one more "Best Teacher" coffee mug or cute apple note pad, she could open her own store. Give these hard-working teachers a boost! They deserve it, especially this year. And this is a Catholic school; salary for private school teachers is often lower than that of public school teachers.
Over 20 sets of parents participated and the total amount donated was over $1100 (to be divided three ways).
Former teacher here... first off, it is very generous of the parents to think of the teachers, especially after such a horrible year where teachers have been on the front lines with COVID.
I have to say I might be nervous as a teacher to accept such a large monetary gift, even one that is well intended, and would want to check with school policy to make sure such a thing is allowed. I know parents would sometimes give me a gift card for Starbucks at the end of the year rather than the traditional plate of cookies, but those were usually for $5. A cash card for $400 seems like something you could get into trouble for.
Former teacher here... first off, it is very generous of the parents to think of the teachers, especially after such a horrible year where teachers have been on the front lines with COVID.
I have to say I might be nervous as a teacher to accept such a large monetary gift, even one that is well intended, and would want to check with school policy to make sure such a thing is allowed. I know parents would sometimes give me a gift card for Starbucks at the end of the year rather than the traditional plate of cookies, but those were usually for $5. A cash card for $400 seems like something you could get into trouble for.
That's a good point KitKat. Many professions have limits on acceptable gift amounts to avoid a potential conflict of interest. I know that's not the case here especially if there's no distinction made between the donors and non-donors but it's a good idea to see if there's a policy in place.
I always have people who want to donate late. Take the money and buy 5 or 10 dollar gas cards to Speedway or whatever your local gas station is and stick them in the envelope.
I agree with you. Let her take responsibility for herself for a change. She probably pulls crap like this all the time. Don't accept the cash.
However I'm with the others on this "gift". It seems unnecessary, maybe even unethical. Is every parent's name on the donation, whether they contributed or not?
what on earth is unethical about parents wanting to give a gift to teachers who they clearly feel went above and beyond the responsibilities of their position? And by definition, gifts are never supposed to be "necessary"
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