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I agree that all of the "shoulds" from people you didn't ask for their two cents can be very annoying! Some can get quite demanding with their "expert" advice too!
Yeah it's annoying. I don't know if my tolerance for it has dropped, or if people are just getting more annoying with it.
It's even more annoying when they don't see how annoying they are. I mean, the type that can dish it out, but can't take it. I know someone like that. Not a close friend just an occasional acquaintance, so I can let it slide without too much stress.
I have been working on just nodding and hmmhmming when it happens, rather than getting stressed about it, because it is REALLY annoying lol. And, I am watching MYSELF closely because I have a tendency to do it too, when it comes to other people's pets. I get annoyed at myself when I realize I've done it again lol.
I did have to drop a friend recently because of this and one other, years ago, for the same reason. All she ever wanted to do was tell me how to live. Every response to anything I told her about myself was to tell me what I was doing wrong and what I SHOULD be doing or feeling instead. When I protested she said how can she help me if I won't listen? Haha! Did I ever ask for "help"? NO! She's out of my life now much to my relief.
Good for you! I have a friend who is like that! Wants to know in detail about how a doctor's visit went and what I should do , etc. It's beyond annoying since I didn't ask for her help or advice. She's like that with most subjects too because after all she knows best! UGH!
Oh, have I ever lost my tolerance for unsolicited advice!
The older I get, the less patience I have with irritating people. I also have a much bigger mouth than I used to and boy, do I use it now. And that's when I'm in a good mood.
One good hint I heard was when someone you know starts ranting about something, ask them is they want advice or is this just a rant. No misunderstanding or hurt feelings on either side.Likewise, if you want to rant, let the person you're ranting to know whether you just want to rant or if you're really looking for advice. "Just let me roar but I'm not looking for advice! Thank you!"
Good friends will understand, although you may have to make it plainer to denser folk.
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Don't ever tell me how to do a job I'm already doing. If I need advice I'll ask for it.
Too many people would be better off duct taping their own mouths. I have one relative that has never mowed a lawn in her life, but she'll tell you how to mow, while you're pushing a mower, and while you're pouring out buckets of sweat under the hot sun.
And don't you hate it when someone tells you to "calm down" when you're having an argument? I'd like to punch 'em all right in the nose.
I actually think you should be the opposite. The world is constantly changing and evolving and you never know where a good piece of advice will come from.
I'd also point out, the older you get, the less patience you have for "surprises". People who seem stubborn and unwilling to question, to change, to grow usually go through life needing a certain amount of sympathy and it's like, I could've saved you a lot of time, money, heartache, if you had just listened.
Don't ever tell me how to do a job I'm already doing. If I need advice I'll ask for it.
Too many people would be better off duct taping their own mouths. I have one relative that has never mowed a lawn in her life, but she'll tell you how to mow, while you're pushing a mower, and while you're pouring out buckets of sweat under the hot sun.
And don't you hate it when someone tells you to "calm down" when you're having an argument? I'd like to punch 'em all right in the nose.
Thanks for the morning laugh. I agree with every word and feel the same way. lol
One woman whom I have never even met took it upon herself to personal message me on facebook to give me advice about what she thought I shouldn't be doing regarding my business (that I've been successfully running for 3 decades plus.) She had loads of advice as to what I might be doing wrong and said that I should "take it from her" and "learn from her mistakes." The thing is, I'm not doing what she did, I am trying to make money, and I am 54 years old and have a brain in my own head, so yeah, I found the "advice" extremely patronizing and condescending.
Plus, I LIKE wearing my underpants on the outside of my clothing and I'm not going to stop, even if people don't like it. That's the name of my business: Outside Underpants
I'm in my early 40s and lately it seems I've gotten very annoyed with unsolicited advice. To be clear I'm not at all saying I know everything, but it seems people like to give their two cents on so much these days and it gets annoying. Is anyone else seeing this or am I just getting old and cranky?
Quite the opposite is valid for me. I have tow tolerance for people intruding in my personal life and wasting my time.
One woman whom I have never even met took it upon herself to personal message me on facebook to give me advice about what she thought I shouldn't be doing regarding my business (that I've been successfully running for 3 decades plus.) She had loads of advice as to what I might be doing wrong and said that I should "take it from her" and "learn from her mistakes." The thing is, I'm not doing what she did, I am trying to make money, and I am 54 years old and have a brain in my own head, so yeah, I found the "advice" extremely patronizing and condescending.
Plus, I LIKE wearing my underpants on the outside of my clothing and I'm not going to stop, even if people don't like it. That's the name of my business: Outside Underpants
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Thanks for the morning laugh. I agree with every word and feel the same way. lol
