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Someone dm'd me this "if you saved it, take a picture and send it before Christmas and see if she continues anyway."
That's a great idea. I wonder how many she bought, and if they were all for me. LOL
She is 44 or 45. She's a middle class stay at home Mom, lives rent free with her husband and adult son at a home owned by her parents.
I'm glad you asked me how she is like to spend time with because today I feel like she disrespected me and I am thinking of cutting her off completely.
We have a planned lunch today at 12 pm and she cancelled on me through text TEN mins before our agreed time. It's a good thing I checked my phone before I left home. She said she has a headache and is very sleepy. I told her I am ready to go and dressed up and she just said "I'm sorry, I'm dizzy and need to sleep now" I was LIVID. I do think she is a hypochondriac and she exaggerates her stories a lot. She also believes her lies (She doesn't know that her Mom complains about her to my Mom) Honestly, I didn't feel like seeing her anymore but that lunch was planned months ago and then she did this? Then she has the nerve to make me feel guilty that I can't reschedule on Friday (because that is her free time)
She's the opposite of a hoarder. She likes to "get rid" of things. She, her husband and son live in a home owned by her parents and her Mom complained to my Mom (they are friends too) that my friend disposed of her things without her knowledge.
I noticed that if she perceives the item to have value she will sell it. She tried to sell me an old printer. She only gifts stuff she doesn't like or are junk to her.
Yeah, based on this additional information I'd definitely refuse any invite now. Betch! Have you known her very long?
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I don't mind either gifting a gift or the other. If I can use the gift, great; if I can't use the gift, then it's taking up valuable space.
I normally give fruitcake to friends, neighbors, and people I want to make friends or unfriend
I only wish someone will give me fruitcake, I love it.
My mom has been regifting to my brother/sisters and I for years. We get a lot of laughs over it.
Many years ago I got "An Amy Grant Christmas" CD from her. No idea why. Told my sister and she said she bought it for my mom a few months earlier when my mom said she liked it. She never even removed the plastic, just threw some wrapping on it and gave it to me.
That's when I found out it wasn't just me she was doing it to. Now we each give her things the rest of us like, then "suggest" a good gift to one of us. I thanked my sister for the bottle of wine my mother "gave me" last year.
It could be a Seinfeld episode if it was still around.
I cut off the gifting with 2 good friends, we were all busy around xmas so it went without a hitch. I tried it with my brother and SIL and gave them baked , but they gave me presents. I doubt they will ever stop giving presents but I'll just live with it.
One year, my SIL commented on how good I smelled, I had a smaller jar, new and gave it to her. A year later she gave it back in a gift bag saying it contained cancer causing ingredients. It was just a body cream from Philosophy. But how freakin weird!!
She's the opposite of a hoarder. She likes to "get rid" of things. She, her husband and son live in a home owned by her parents and her Mom complained to my Mom (they are friends too) that my friend disposed of her things without her knowledge.
I noticed that if she perceives the item to have value she will sell it. She tried to sell me an old printer. She only gifts stuff she doesn't like or are junk to her.
This person isn't giving anyone anything. She's taking advantage of their inherent courtesy. Her little world is populated by one person: herself. Most of the actions she seems to take are primarily to benefit her. The other person ranks a distant second. She sees gifting as a convenient way to foist her unwanted stuff on someone else but still getting some sort of credit for it. If she can't get $ at least she can get some social cred for going through the motions. She's counting on the recipients to be too polite to challenge her behavior.
You probably mean little to nothing to her these days OP. If a friend treated me like a convenient recycling bin, instead of the non-dramatic failed friendship slow fade, I'd be doing some targeted purging of my own.
Last edited by Parnassia; 12-27-2023 at 03:20 PM..
My mom has been regifting to my brother/sisters and I for years. We get a lot of laughs over it.
Many years ago I got "An Amy Grant Christmas" CD from her. No idea why. Told my sister and she said she bought it for my mom a few months earlier when my mom said she liked it. She never even removed the plastic, just threw some wrapping on it and gave it to me.
That's when I found out it wasn't just me she was doing it to. Now we each give her things the rest of us like, then "suggest" a good gift to one of us. I thanked my sister for the bottle of wine my mother "gave me" last year.
It could be a Seinfeld episode if it was still around.
I don't mind either gifting a gift or the other. If I can use the gift, great; if I can't use the gift, then it's taking up valuable space.
I normally give fruitcake to friends, neighbors, and people I want to make friends or unfriend
I only wish someone will give me fruitcake, I love it.
frozen fruitcake sliced paper thin goes very well with a sip of Crown.
Not sure if someone has suggested it already, but why don't you just regift those same items back to her, and see how she reacts? Let us know what happens.
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It was just a body cream from Philosophy. But how freakin weird!!
love it!
