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Old 05-14-2009, 08:00 AM
 
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I come in contact with lots of mean and very uncommunicative people. I wonder sometimes what they think of their self. Do they think they are nice and charming? How do they justify their meanness to themselves?

Have you ever sat down with someone who was basically just plain mean and uncommunicative and tried to get inside their head? What did they say?
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Old 05-14-2009, 08:05 AM
 
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I come in contact with lots of mean and very uncommunicative people. I wonder sometimes what they think of their self. Do they think they are nice and charming? How do they justify their meanness to themselves?

Have you ever sat down with someone who was basically just plain mean and uncommunicative and tried to get inside their head? What did they say?
Why would I want to? Life's way too short.
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Old 05-14-2009, 08:07 AM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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I have no desire to be the head of someone like that. Why they enjoy their misery is of no interest to me.
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Old 05-14-2009, 08:11 AM
 
Location: In my skin
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The way people treat others is usually a reflection of their own self-worth. I personally wouldn't wanna spend any time with them.
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Old 05-14-2009, 08:57 AM
 
Location: NW San Antonio
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I come in contact with lots of mean and very uncommunicative people. I wonder sometimes what they think of their self. Do they think they are nice and charming? How do they justify their meanness to themselves?

Have you ever sat down with someone who was basically just plain mean and uncommunicative and tried to get inside their head? What did they say?
If they're mean and uncommunicative? hmmmm, I would believe they wouldn't say much, isn't that what uncommunicative, means.
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Old 05-14-2009, 09:12 AM
 
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I come in contact with lots of mean and very uncommunicative people. I wonder sometimes what they think of their self. Do they think they are nice and charming? How do they justify their meanness to themselves?

Have you ever sat down with someone who was basically just plain mean and uncommunicative and tried to get inside their head? What did they say?
Uncommunicative people are not necessarily mean...perhaps they are just quiet, withdrawn or shy and are viewed by others as being mean.
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Old 05-14-2009, 09:38 AM
 
Location: Subarctic Mountain Climate in England
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Uncommunicative people are not necessarily mean...perhaps they are just quiet, withdrawn or shy and are viewed by others as being mean.
Exactly. Way too much judgement from wannabe psycoanalysts flying about the board. I might be considered "uncommunicative" by most because I am a natural "introvert" and don't feel the need to make conversation with any old person. If people see that as antisocial let that be on their own heads not mine.
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Old 05-14-2009, 09:47 AM
 
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I don't like small talk and feel comfortable with silence. I don't feel like I have to entertain every stranger sitting next to me. Now I know that those strangers automatically assume that I'm mean
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Old 05-14-2009, 09:50 AM
 
Location: Maryland
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I come in contact with lots of mean and very uncommunicative people. I wonder sometimes what they think of their self. Do they think they are nice and charming? How do they justify their meanness to themselves?

Have you ever sat down with someone who was basically just plain mean and uncommunicative and tried to get inside their head? What did they say?
My experiences are, for the most part, the opposite of yours. Most people I come into contact with are friendly. I find that if I am open, outgoing, repectful and pleasant with people (I work with the public) they treat me likewise.

When I do encounter a nasty or uncommunicative person I don't really think much of it. I always assume that person may be going through a bad time of it, maybe just having a bad day or maybe it is just their personality. I wonder sometimes what has happened to that person in their life to make them be so mean and nasty. So, I try to think of them in a compassionate way and get the hell away from them as fast as I can!
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Old 05-14-2009, 09:57 AM
 
Location: Orlando
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I come in contact with lots of mean and very uncommunicative people. I wonder sometimes what they think of their self. Do they think they are nice and charming? How do they justify their meanness to themselves?

Have you ever sat down with someone who was basically just plain mean and uncommunicative and tried to get inside their head? What did they say?
Some might actually be shy.
Some might actually have had a lot of bad things happen to them in their lives.
Some might actually realize that it not their resposibility to entertain others and keep them happy.
Some might have been stabbed in the back by the "happy and cheerful" people so keep their guard up.

I don't judge...I just continue to treat everyone the same.
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