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I can understand why some adult children no longer interact with their parents, and they are justified. But I also know adult children who remained rather emotionally infantile, felt extremely entitled and cut off good, kind, loving parents (or one parent), even when the parents or parent reached out to them. These particular people did not fare well in life because they had issues that they had not resolved.
I can understand why some adult children no longer interact with their parents, and they are justified. But I also know adult children who remained rather emotionally infantile, felt extremely entitled and cut off good, kind, loving parents (or one parent), even when the parents or parent reached out to them. These particular people did not fare well in life because they had issues that they had not resolved.
Of course. Each person and situation is unique and different. Speaking for myself, I'm just saying that I wouldn't automatically red flag a potential significant other just because I just found out that they no longer talked to their parents. I would keep an open mind and give them a chance to explain the back history that led up to the current situation.
In other words, just because someone tells me that they don't talk to their parents any longer, I'm not going to immediately ASSume that they are a terrible person with unresolved emotional issues... as I've found that many parents shouldn't have had children in the first place.
I'm pretty lucky cause I get along with my parents. But over the years, I've dated a number of people who didn't. Many are no longer on speaking terms. I'm wondering what can (and should) you infer from that?
As far as I'm concerned (and I read a few of the other post here) one of the sole reasons why our world is crazy and senseless is because of toxic parents! Grrrrr! People ruin perfectly normal children which then become monster adults ( tall 2 year olds) later on in life!
Some kids get away unaffected, others wind up projecting there pain inward toward themselves (drugs, prostitution ) or outward toward other humans, animals (murder,child abuse).
For me, I tried to date a person who was verbally abused all her life but realized there was just to much Psychological damage that I had to deal with so I had to let her go to save myself.
So for now on I look at people like cars and try to be around people who have been taken care of (emotionally) as I find it makes a difference in there personality and the way I interact with them. Or to further elaborate myself, over the years people who I found that were emotionally stable came from emotionally stable homes and life is just to short to put up with BS from somebody who is unstable especially when there are many stable people to chose from.
Last edited by Morphous01; 05-26-2009 at 11:08 PM..
Sometimes people get sick of playing a certain role in that family that wasnt either healthy or helpful. When I became the age to take control of who I wanted to be in my life and how those particular people treated me, the parents didnt make the cut. I still miss them but than remember the other times I just couldnt take it any longer. So- I felt that i came out of that as a person who was able to choose and give myself what my family couldnt. I see the behavior and wont let it repeat on my end. You need to find the reason, because its not always the child.
Sometimes people get sick of playing a certain role in that family that wasnt either healthy or helpful. When I became the age to take control of who I wanted to be in my life and how those particular people treated me, the parents didnt make the cut. I still miss them but than remember the other times I just couldnt take it any longer. So- I felt that i came out of that as a person who was able to choose and give myself what my family couldnt. I see the behavior and wont let it repeat on my end. You need to find the reason, because its not always the child.
It sounds as if you're healthy and are doing what you needed to do.
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