Pet Peeve- Saturday, October 30, 2010 (best, employee, family, birthday)

[njsocks]

Happy Pre-Halloween City-Data friends! The gracious SCG is on vacation as you all know and has asked me to do a Pet Peeve or two Enjoy your vacation SunCoast~!

Pet Peeve for the Day: BACKSTABBING! We've all had this at one time or another in our life Turn the knife a little to the right! How do you react to this?

[tasmtairy]

I had found this mostly in the workplace kind of a trust no one situation. With friends, maybe it was when I was younger. I'm glad I don't work in a management/office setting anymore where office politics and backstabbing are an everyday occurrence. Oh wait...I did experience this in my current position this summer and I am really in a "trust no one" mode.

[Bella52]

Of course it's happened many times in my life but actually I might say something then move on. Will I ever forget, no What goes around, comes around

[Lucky Lady123]

It's happened a couple times in my life and I just move on and don't bother with them anymore. It takes me awhile to trust people now a days.

[tet tea]

I've learned to confront (tactfully) in the workplace, and to cut ties in my personal life.

[dogmom]

Great subject Socks..backstabbers..ah the karma...I believe truly what goes around comes around..I have encountered such ugliness at the work place and online a couple times. I have learned I need to keep more things private, don't give the baddies anything to pick on.

Again, great subject..

[JustJoy]

Oh where do I begin I've had people try it at work, but my superiors knew my character and quality of work so the other person just looked like the fool they were (and most higher-ups don't like that kind of behavior in employees). At one job, there was a girl who was doing it to several of us to try and advance herself who ended up getting fired for it.

To me though, I think the absolute worst kind of backstabbers are so called "friends". I was talking to DS last night and realized I'd missed his dad's birthday - his is the 12th and my former best friend of 9 years, Janette, was the 21st. Even after almost 30 years, I get their birthdays confused and every October when this happens I think about her and how she stabbed me in the back after all those times I was there for her, put up with some of the crap she pulled . . . why to this day I have a very, very, very small circle of people who I consider true friends.

[Cunucu Beach]

There is no one that gets through life without experiencing this at one time or another. Whether it's a family member, a "friend" or a fellow employee, I have learned to deal with it in a very effective manner--ignore it and rise above it. Just go on being your sweet, friendly, agreeable self (assuming you're already that) and do not let yourself get dragging into a p*****g contest with the backstabber. Sooner or later the backstabber will find that everything has turned around and all the s**t he has been shoveling out comes flies back in his face.

[Dbl-r]

I've found that if you don't do anything wrong this isn't a problem in most cases

[ShelbyGirl1]

I truly believe what goes around, comes around. I know...cliche', but so very true. I try to ignore ( I do secretly seethe), and try to be above their dirty tactics. It's worked for me in the past...as usually the culprit ends up looking the fool.