Disappointment and Failure! (house, poem, name, kids)

[Topo]

Anyone ever feel like they have disappointed, or failed their family, friends, and employers?

Feeling like I have disappointed and failed everyone lately! So, I am wondering if others feel this way

[dukester2]

Topo, I'm really disappointed in you for starting a thread like this, you really let us down.

No, seriously...try to pull yourself out of that funk. If you are doing what you can do, and feel in your heart that it's the right way, let it go. You have to believe in yourself first before others will believe in you.

Try this philosophy..."I'm okay, it's the rest of the world that is all screwed up"

[Mrs.Bewitched]

Luckily I don't feel that way, but I feel that I have had family that has dissapointed and failed me...and I am sure they aren't thinking twice about it!

Why would you think so of yourself, if you don't mind me asking?

[dukester2]

Topo, try some of these things to bring you out of that funk:

1. At Lunch Time, Sit In Your Parked Car With Sunglasses on and point a

Hair Dryer At Passing Cars. See If They Slow Down.



2. Page Yourself Over The Intercom. Don't Disguise Your Voice.



3. Every Time Someone Asks You To Do Something, Ask If They Want Fries

with that.



4. Put Your Garbage Can On Your Desk And Label It "In."



5. Put Decaf In The Coffee Maker For 3 Weeks. Once Everyone has Gotten

Over Their Caffeine Addictions, Switch to Espresso.



6. In The Memo Field Of All Your Checks, Write "For Smuggling Diamonds"



7. Finish All Your sentences with "In Accordance With The Prophecy."



8. Don't use any punctuation



9. As Often As Possible, Skip Rather Than Walk.



10. Order a Diet Water whenever you go out to eat, with a serious face.



11. Specify That Your Drive-through Order Is "To Go."



12. Sing Along At The Opera.



13. Go To A Poetry Recital And Ask Why The Poems Don't Rhyme



14. Put Mosquito Netting Around Your Work Area And Play tropical Sounds

All Day.



15. Five Days In Advance, Tell Your Friends You Can't Attend Their Party

Because You're Not In The Mood.



16. Have Your Co-workers Address You By Your Wrestling Name, Rock

Bottom.



17. When The Money Comes Out The ATM, Scream "I Won!, I Won!"



18. When Leaving The Zoo, Start Running Towards The Parking lot, Yelling

"Run For Your Lives, They're Loose!!"



19. Tell Your Children Over Dinner. "Due To The Economy, We Are Going To

Have To Let One Of You Go."

[dandevder]

Who cares what other people think!! Are you happy...that's the question. Don't set goals or do things to make other happy, dot hat for yourself!

I have felt like that before, but realized that I was doing things for the wrong reasons. I needed to do things to make me feel good about acheiving something.

[I LOVE PA!]

dukester, that was GREAT! I'm a 47 yr old Mom, I think I might try a few with the kids around, just to embarrass them!

[GreggB]

Originally Posted by dukester2

Topo, try some of these things to bring you out of that funk:

1. At Lunch Time, Sit In Your Parked Car With Sunglasses on and point a

Hair Dryer At Passing Cars. See If They Slow Down.



2. Page Yourself Over The Intercom. Don't Disguise Your Voice.



3. Every Time Someone Asks You To Do Something, Ask If They Want Fries

with that.



4. Put Your Garbage Can On Your Desk And Label It "In."



5. Put Decaf In The Coffee Maker For 3 Weeks. Once Everyone has Gotten

Over Their Caffeine Addictions, Switch to Espresso.



6. In The Memo Field Of All Your Checks, Write "For Smuggling Diamonds"



7. Finish All Your sentences with "In Accordance With The Prophecy."



8. Don't use any punctuation



9. As Often As Possible, Skip Rather Than Walk.



10. Order a Diet Water whenever you go out to eat, with a serious face.



11. Specify That Your Drive-through Order Is "To Go."



12. Sing Along At The Opera.



13. Go To A Poetry Recital And Ask Why The Poems Don't Rhyme



14. Put Mosquito Netting Around Your Work Area And Play tropical Sounds

All Day.



15. Five Days In Advance, Tell Your Friends You Can't Attend Their Party

Because You're Not In The Mood.



16. Have Your Co-workers Address You By Your Wrestling Name, Rock

Bottom.



17. When The Money Comes Out The ATM, Scream "I Won!, I Won!"



18. When Leaving The Zoo, Start Running Towards The Parking lot, Yelling

"Run For Your Lives, They're Loose!!"



19. Tell Your Children Over Dinner. "Due To The Economy, We Are Going To

Have To Let One Of You Go."

This Is A Great Post!!!! I especially like the hair dryer thing.

[Racelady88]

In all seriousness, I think we all get to feeling like that once in a while. Its called "The Blues".

Take a "me" day off of work and go do something fun.

Then, ask yourself if it really matters what your brother/uncle/cousin thinks of your job/house/car. If you are happy, and you are not a serial killer/rapist/arsonist, then s.c.r.e.w those who would bring you down. Perhaps they are dumping on you in an effort to feel better about themselves.

[MoMark]

Originally Posted by Topo

Anyone ever feel like they have disappointed, or failed their family, friends, and employers?

Feeling like I have disappointed and failed everyone lately! So, I am wondering if others feel this way

You need to go to someone you trust who is in a position to actually tell you and ask him or her: "Please tell me what I'm doing right and what you see as wrong".
I had a time when I first became a department manager, had 200 reports, and was running around solving problems and putting out fires non-stop. I made some big mistakes and I felt like I was a fraud, that I shouldn't be in the position I was in...no college degree and the other three Dept. Managers all came from flashy corporate backgrounds, etc. I was an internal promotion.
I finally reached the point where I felt like I failed everyone and went to my boss (the coolest lady on the planet) and she said: "What's wrong?" I told her "Maryanne, I've cluster-f*cked everything I've touched and I think I'm over my head" (and believe it or not..I burst into tears! Torrents of tears actually - a human Niagara Falls! - can you imagine that? At work in a very professional and corporate environment?!!!! ).
Anyway, she said wait. Let's go over what you think you cluster-f*cked. So we went through a whole list of assignments, projects, decisions made, etc. On some she'd say..."yeah...that one wasn't so good", or "what! you did a great job on that one!". We evaluated my whole performance and the positives far outweighed the negatives.
I've never forgotten her kindness as a Director in taking the time to help me organize my sense of proportion and evaluate me on the spot. She was simply amazing and I walked out of her office glowing. Most of my failures were overmagnified in my head, but I couldn't see my own view was distorted.

[nomoresnow]

Hang in there, Topo. You have some good advice from your friends here. We cannot be held responsible for anyone else's happiness and vice versa. As long as you know you're doing the right thing and you are comfortable with yourself is what counts.