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Each time When I stopped him from doing something he is not supposed to do, he scratched my face or pushed me.
What should I do?? I tried to explain it is no good hitting people. He does not seem to understand, next time he will do it again.
Just gently catch his hand so he can't hit you, and say NO!He's too young to explain anything to, but not too young to learn NO.After a few times of NO, he will learn that he can't do that.
if you don't nip this bad behavior in the bud now, it will only get worse. don't let it ride. loud no NO grab his arms as he is going at you and put him in time out-just for a few minutes but enough for him to know this is wrong. don't let it slide.
I would recommend you exagerate your reaction..."ouch, that really hurt me" and then ask him to please don't do this again. It's not nice to hit/scratch people we love (or anyone for that matter). I see that he's 17 months, but within his vocabulary limits try to ask him to use his words and not his hands. If he doesn't know how try to help him express himself "I'm sad, I'm frustrated because..." And perhaps keep track of his behavior and reward him and thank him for using his words next time.
He will grow out of it. Each time, a firm "no hitting!", or "no scratching!" as you hold his hands. Move away from him, so he can't hit you again. Punishing him won't make him learn any more quickly, it will just make things more stressful between you.
Not sure he's old enough, but what worked well for my then-2-year-old was offering a pillow for him to hit. "Don't hit me! You can hit this pillow." He grew out of hitting fairly quickly. If you can remain calm and centered, that will help him. Don't expect him to stop after 1 or 2 or 12 times of telling him "no"; it will stop when he grows into the ability to restrain himself when he's frustrated. And he WILL grow into that ability! Especially if you can restrain yourself when you're frustrated!
if you don't nip this bad behavior in the bud now, it will only get worse. don't let it ride. loud no NO grab his arms as he is going at you and put him in time out-just for a few minutes but enough for him to know this is wrong. don't let it slide.
Good post right here. I completely agree. Every single time....no matter WHO he's hitting, grab his hand firmly and say NO! You do not HIT! Then set his little butt in a time out spot. At his age, you aren't going to leave him there for long...max, 5 minutes, and you WILL have to stand guard over him most likely for the entire time. When he tries to get up, you plop his little butt back in the chair and tell him, "NO, you are in time out for 5 minutes. We're going to start over again! Every time you hit me, you will sit in this chair. We DO not HIT people and you are to NEVER hit me!"
You need to be completely consistent with your discipline. I don't care who you're around or where you're at. Slip up just one time and you'll be right back to square one. As he gets older, you will need to make his time outs longer. Be sure to let him know, once he's done his time out, that you explain (lovingly, but firmly) why he was in time out....that you love him with all of your heart, but that there are just some things that one does not do...hitting is one of those things....and he is NEVER, EVER to hit mommy (or daddy)....EVER!
Some people will say, "I don't have TIME to stand over my child while they're in time out!" I say, you better MAKE time for it. If you don't, you're going to regret it deeply. After a while, you won't have to stand over them...invest the time now...and invest in a good egg timer as well! Shouting and hollering while in time out, completely negated time "served". My children were expected to sit quietly and THINK about why they were in time out. This was not discussion time, nor was it ever OPEN for discussion. We would "discuss" the situations AFTER time was served. LOL
You know, there's something that I've seen occur in people raising children nowadays that bothers the heck out of me, too. I can not believe the time that some parents will spend on the telephone or the computer. Their children are constantly seeking attention, quite often by acting out. Please don't be the kind of parent who is on the phone or the computer constantly. Take the time to spend QUALITY time with your kids. Imagine how they feel. You're at home with them, but you're more interested in talking with people on the phone or computer all day, rather than talking with and listening to them. I am not saying you are doing this....honest....I'm just saying it.
Each time When I stopped him from doing something he is not supposed to do, he scratched my face or pushed me.
What should I do?? I tried to explain it is no good hitting people. He does not seem to understand, next time he will do it again.
Try not to give negative attention. Take the hand gently, say "nice hands" and don't give any further attention. Catch him being good though and throw compliments to him "wow, I love how you're being so gentle....". Positive attention all the way. Ignore what you can.
not only did he have me yelling NO to him, and me slapping HIS hand, he also got tossed in the corner for a few minutes.
he decided there were better ways to get my attention or express his frustration.
'nice hands' my tooshie. i dont put up with that garbage.... LOL positive reinforcement is great when they are doing what you WANT them to do, not when they are hitting you. jmo.
Firmly say no and explain why, if he does it again id swat his hand or bottom.
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