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Poor parents, most doing the best that they can and then being hit with all the errors they made in rearing their young.
I think my parents should not have lied to me about Santa. It gave me a lesson early on that I could not trust them, as I still thought lying was wrong. When they told me there was no Santa I reached the conclusion that there was no Jesus, another imaginary friend. This did not make me disbelieve the mystical experience later in life, though.
My parents did not expect me to take responsibility. Fortunately, I knew this was an error on their part, hated the 'smother' love and left home to put myself through school and get a job and my own place as soon as I could. It could have turned out very differently, with me staying home and marrying some poor fellow with the promise of a good career and having 3 kids in a disastrous marriage.
My parents never discussed sex with me and they really should have. Reading dirty books with my girlfriends is a lousy substitute.
Leaving me by myself constantly. No, I kept to myself, no, I didn't need constant supervision, but still. Oh, that and my mom flipping out on me, or arguing for hours with people in front of me. Lame.
I know that many families are dysfunctional in some way or another, but I never want to make those mistakes if I can help it.
I am a parent of a 24 &17 year old...I am not a perfect person...my children had warm beds,roof over their heads,good food in their bellies,the best education my money and taxes could buy and a stable happy home life! I am sure I did some things wrong and I'm sure they would happily give you a list!!However,no matter how they turn out in the end let this be the inscription on my tombstone...Here lies Mom...she tried her best!!!
They raised me to be quiet and passive. In retrospect, this has hurt me both with women and in the workplace. It's not really all their fault though. They're from a different culture.
They also let me choose my own college. In the end, I think they should have chosen for me (crazy as that sounds for those college aged who are reading this).
Other than that, they gave me everything. All of my f@ckups in life are mostly due to myself.
I was raised to be smart in school and never prioritize a social life, wasn't really allowed to meet up with friends that much after school etc. Needless to say this has led to some social challenges, getting a girl being the most prominent one of them.
Also I've gotten 2 advices on relationships, one from mom and one from dad; mom when I was in school: "don't worry, women will chase you in highschool" mom when I was in highschool: "don't worry, things will change and and women will see you differently when you go to university" mom now that I'm at university: "don't worry once you're through and get yourself a good job you might find someone"
Anyone else see a striking pattern here?
dad: "stay away from women son, they can never be reasoned with, nor trusted"
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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