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I have a 50yo brother who has a 9 month old. Mom is 42. It is both of their first and most likely only. There couldn't be a more loved baby.. While I wouldn't want to do it, they are actually really enjoying her.
I have a cousin who had his last two children in his 50s. They are healthy and happy and very close to their father. He has two grandchildren by these kids also. Younger parents die all the time. It's not just about age. It's about general health and the luck of the draw in life.
I have a cousin who had his last two children in his 50s. They are healthy and happy and very close to their father. He has two grandchildren by these kids also. Younger parents die all the time. It's not just about age. It's about general health and the luck of the draw in life.
Good luck if you decide to go for it.
I had a friend whose father was in his mid 40's and mother was in her 20's when they had two kids. She said her aunts had told her that everyone felt her mom would end up a young widow raising two kids. Her Mother died before she was 30 and he raised the kids and only recently died in his late 90's. So, you never know.
I personally think my brother is a much better parent now than he would have been when he was younger. He does a lot of hands on care, as his wife works nights. It seems that the his perspective is much different. He acts like he has time, I am surprised like when she has been fussy when teething, he is very calm and caring. I don't think he feels he is missing out on anything-he can be in the moment much more, if that makes sense. The baby just lights up when he is around.
He was pretty sick a number of years ago, and at one point we weren't sure he would make it. The baby was kind of a surprise. But she sure is a blessing.
...I personally think my brother is a much better parent now than he would have been when he was younger... It seems that the his perspective is much different. He acts like he has time...
I was going to post something along this line but Aque Blue said it so well. Medical issues aside, older parents seem to be better parents overall, both emotionally and mentally.
i work with a man who is 52 and his wife is 38 and she is pregnant and due any day now and he says he is going to love being a dad and he will have more babies with her maybe three or four more . I cannot believe that she will be okay with this but who knows right ?
I know plenty of older men 50+ who have very healthy children.
the pattern that I see is that their wives/women are always at least 15-25 years younger than them. Wherever I hear a woman telling a man that he's too old to have children, I just see her trying to project a woman's problem onto men. Men and women clearly aren't equal that's why a man like Clint Eastwood or Larry King can have a beautiful child while being a senior citizen.
Nowdays there's no excuse for a person go be in horrible shape or bad health with the resources that are available.
My husband was 45 when we had our daughter. I think my husband, atleast grew into a kinder, calmer more responsible person as he aged. He's been a great dad and our daughter is graduating college this semester. My mom & dad had my youngest sister when Dad was 47 & Mom 38. Again, a very succesful childhood. People are living into their 90's and are much healthier than in the past. I think too many people see 65 as circling the drain and it ain't so!
I sure would like to hear from men in their mid 50s +/- in age who might have been faced with their spouse talking about having a baby at this late age.
This is not about the woman, she is younger and within safe child bearing years. This is for the men who have to help bring up a baby when retirement is supposed to be 10 years or less away.
How can anyone justify wanting to be into their early 70s when the kid is graduating school? These types of questions can go on and on.
Your sentiments on this?
I think this critical issue should be brought up before the marriage happens ; but regardless, bringing a child into the world is A JOINT DECISION where it has to be unaminous , not partial . As a male in his mid 50's....I would not like to try to transition my life back to raising kid(s) again ---- I would entertain being a Big Brother to a needy child or adolescent though on a part time basis in order to help out in such a situation .
I might add, that, if a child is produced out of wedlock ... that all bets are off and the child is brought into the world and either kept or given up to a nice / loving 2 parent home . Abortion is not an option due to inconvenience , liberty, or entitle-itis .
Not trying to argue with you my friend, but the evidence about older fathers and their impact on Autism and Down's Syndrome is pretty standard stuff.
Of course, just because odds are increased doesn't mean EVERY older father will have a child with mental or physical issues.
To answer your other question...my father had a son when he was almost 50. That "kid" (30 now) is the apple of his eye and the one he simply can't spend enough time with
Now that you said that...my father was 45 when one of my brothers was born and 47 when the last one was born. Never thought anything of it before.
My friend's husband passed away two years ago at the age of 79. Her kids were 12 and 16.
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