The adolescent brain, a work in progress well past age 18!
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Yes, and parents generally know their own kids, they know which ones are tougher, which ones might be more fragile, which ones have emotionally grown up very fast, which ones are still not there but coming along fine - but in their own time. Brains can be quite different.
Some kids are very compatible with their parents and they all like living together, while others can't wait until they're off on their own. Sometimes there is a personality clash, sometimes there isn't.
Even if the child marries, it could just be that everyone gets along so well, they just prefer it that way. It's pretty much to the individuals involved how they want to do things. If they all want to stay living together even when the "kid" is 60 -- who cares.
Most kids want to leave the nest, even if they adore their parents, they just want to at some point go out and make it on their own or with their own spouse. It's a bittersweet moment for the parents when they leave.
And some will leave and come back again for a while or forever.
Wow, malamute.....this is incredible. How perfectly put! Thank you for this!
Too many parents fail to understand that past the age of about 13 the parents job is not to parent anymore, but to mentor instead. And positive guidance is part of good mentoring.
When you mentor your young teen into adulthood they ARE ready to fly the nest and live successfully out in the real world.
But to drop them like a hot potatoe the minute they turn 18 is to drop the ball and shortchange them at a very crucial time in their lives.
Totally agree...drop them at 18 and then stand back and watch what happens. Not always pretty. Mentoring is a transition from good parenting. Guidance and great wisdom are things they can all benefit from throughout their lives.
Too many parents don't just want to be in the car along for the journey...they want to take the wheel, control of the brakes and steer their teens in the direction they think they should be going.
Totally agree...drop them at 18 and then stand back and watch what happens. Not always pretty. Mentoring is a transition from good parenting. Guidance and great wisdom are things they can all benefit from throughout their lives.
Too many parents don't just want to be in the car along for the journey...they want to take the wheel, control of the brakes and steer their teens in the direction they think they should be going.
SO well said
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