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Are you really suggesting that it's OK for a 20-year-old to forget his brother's birthday? He has a phone, a calendar, and a mother who reminded him.
People forget..
Some people are just spacey...
No need to go all salem witch trials on them.
<----- Some people are lucky they remember to put pants on before they leave the house...
I know people forget. That's why calendars existed thousands of years ago. The dude has tools to help him remember and still did not. That is flaky. No excuse.
I know people forget. That's why calendars existed thousands of years ago. The dude has tools to help him remember and still did not. That is flaky. No excuse.
I know people forget, too. That's why I get lots of calls or texts around the time of an upcoming birthday of anyone in the family. I'm the one who always remembers them, and everyone else has to ask me when they are. However, they do ask and wish the person a happy birthday on that day.
It does make you wonder what goes on in the heads of someone who receives something really thoughtful and nice in the mail . . .and has absolutely no notion to pick up the phone and text a simple "thank you." I honestly don't get it . . . is it entitlement, laziness . . . other? What is the thinking (of lack of thinking)?
It does make you wonder what goes on in the heads of someone who receives something really thoughtful and nice in the mail . . .and has absolutely no notion to pick up the phone and text a simple "thank you." I honestly don't get it . . . is it entitlement, laziness . . . other? What is the thinking (of lack of thinking)?
Could some mannerless twit please explain?
...Was uh...that at me?? Or....am I stupid for even replying? LOL
Lack of thinking..
Being so caught up only thinking about yourself and your day and everything going on in your life to be too busy to think about anything else.
BookLover: This is NOT true. Maybe for txt and her circle of friends but I can ASSURE you that there are members of that generation who have manners and know how to send a thank you.
Which I think your son should be doing.
One more question: How does he function without driving in L.A.? There is public transportation but a car is pretty much a necessity. I'm wondering why he doesn't drive.
That is just wanting him to be the son you want, the one with manners. He is 20, not a little kid, and he clearly isn't one of those members of his generation that have them. Nothing she can do about that. Again, he is 20.
To the op, txqueen is right. Be glad you don't know. Realize that the lack of phone calls means he is independent. It's the time in his life when he will start to reap what he sows. Some 20 year olds check in with mom all the time, some don't. Usually the ones who do are having a hard time, need advice a lot or need direction because they have none. Some are just really nice kids sure but some can't see to their own direction. Calling mom a lot isn't always a good sign.
I have a 19 year old and they gradually talk less and less to parents and more and more to their friends, even when they live with you. Growing up is a process, he isn't abnormal. It's a hard time for parents, I agree but why don't you just tell him how you feel. That you miss him and would like to talk to him more, even if it isn't about anything important. Tell him this is hard for you.
I wouldn't attach his response to the gifts though. It's your choice to give something. You aren't a stranger he may feel he doesn't need to respond to every time you send a gift. You are his mom, you both have an unspoken knowledge of thanks and love each other. I wouldn't worry about the gift basket response. You miss him, you need more convo, just tell him that. Write a snail mail letter if you have to.
It does make you wonder what goes on in the heads of someone who receives something really thoughtful and nice in the mail . . .and has absolutely no notion to pick up the phone and text a simple "thank you." I honestly don't get it . . . is it entitlement, laziness . . . other? What is the thinking (of lack of thinking)?
Could some mannerless twit please explain?
He probably thinks she knows he loves her and he knows she loves him. Maybe he doesn't know she is doing it for the reasons of communication, that she is wanting a immediate response to the gifts. Sending mommy baskets might not be a "call me" alarm to him. He might be use to it and see it as a comfort from her to let him know she still thinks about him. It takes a while sometimes for older kids to realize that moms need reassurance. She was the parent, and capable for most of his life. Some kids don't realize we turn to mush when they leave, she is going to have to talk to him about the real issue.
He isn't a "needy" kid. Doesn't mean he feel entitlement. IMO.
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