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It doesn't seem that different to what most parents do anyway, IMO. Is there a difference from most normal parents that you see? I don't really get the point of a group. I think I must be missing something.
I don't see is as any different from any other parenting advice that is out there. If you read something that resonates with you, use it. If you read something that doesn't make sense for you and your family ignore it.
If that's what people want to do, fine by me. Just as long as they don't get all judgmental towards those who don't do all the attachment stuff. Luckily I've only encountered that (judgmental people) online and not in real life.
It seems like, and even says on the web site that it is a return to instinctual behaviors. If it is instinctual, I don't think we need a book and a web site to tell us how to do it.
I have an issue with the fact that API encourages cosleeping. Adult beds have crevices babies can slip into, pillows and blankets they can suffocate on, and big people who could accidentally roll over on them. The AAP advises against it.
"Rather than reacting to behavior, discover the needs leading to the behavior." sometimes you have to react. Natural consequences are great but that can't be the only consequences.
I've said before that I think it is odd and unnatural to subscribe to a parenting style you find in a book or online. Do what feels right and what works.
We used certain aspects (always responding to our babies' cries, breastfeeding on demand, and wearing them in a sling before they became mobile) and ignored others (bed sharing and being with them 24/7 until at least age 2).
Our three girls are very happy, well-adjusted and empathetic. I don't think that they'd be any better off had we slept with them or ignored our needs as adults for occasional alone time and couple time as some AP books suggest.
I think the concept of being a responsive parent is fine; it's the martyrdom that I don't buy into.
We used certain aspects (always responding to our babies' cries, breastfeeding on demand, and wearing them in a sling before they became mobile) and ignored others (bed sharing and being with them 24/7 until at least age 2).
Our three girls are very happy, well-adjusted and empathetic. I don't think that they'd be any better off had we slept with them or ignored our needs as adults for occasional alone time and couple time as some AP books suggest.
I think the concept of being a responsive parent is fine; it's the martyrdom that I don't buy into.
I don't have a problem with it for a small child or baby, as long as BOTH mom and baby (and dad) are happy. I think prescribing a type of parenting as gospel truth is a mistake and puts undue pressure on the parent. I also think that as a child ages we have to constantly remind ourselves that as parents our job is to raise an independent adult while nurturing them to that end.
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