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Not even sure this is in the right forum so feel free to move it if neccesary.
My husband and I have 3 kids. Our 19yo is not living with us and has not lived with us since about the age of 14 by order of Children's Court as the result of a CHIPS order requested by us. Very long sad story(drugs, running away, manipulation, criminal charges, accusations that we abused him and the list goes on-he also has a couple of DX's). So, at the current moment we have very little to no contact with him and this is mutual.
This is where my question lies:
Would it be inappropriate to have a family picture without him? Would YOU do this? How would you feel if you walked in a house and saw a family picture minus one of their kids for similar reasons? Feedback please, thank you!
I was at my friend's house the other day and looking through the family photos. Her mother (who had 3 children) was married to a man with a child, so it was a nice blended family-- until the man's child had cancer. The cancer destroyed the marriage and the couple soon divorce after the child's death. My friend said that she and her siblings were very affected by the loss of their "brother" so you see in the proceeding family pictures that one of them is holding a picture of the "brother". its been almost 20 years and they still acknowledge the loss. Its usually the friend's sister (who shared the same b'day as the boy) that wears the portrait brooch.
Maybe take that idea and incorporate it into yours?
Spazkat, no, he never comes over. He's not very welcome here although, if he showed up at our doorstep we wouldn't send him packin'. KWIM? Thanks for your opinion. I appreciate it!
Stan,
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That's just the picture you took of the people who are in the house
I like how you presented this. Never thought about it that way.
Some people might say that doing this is rotten. What do yo say then?
I was at my friend's house the other day and looking through the family photos. Her mother (who had 3 children) was married to a man with a child, so it was a nice blended family-- until the man's child had cancer. The cancer destroyed the marriage and the couple soon divorce after the child's death. My friend said that she and her siblings were very affected by the loss of their "brother" so you see in the proceeding family pictures that one of them is holding a picture of the "brother". its been almost 20 years and they still acknowledge the loss. Its usually the friend's sister (who shared the same b'day as the boy) that wears the portrait brooch.
Maybe take that idea and incorporate it into yours?
Wow, what a great way to acknowledge such a loss.
I like the idea. Definitely gonna give that some thought. Thank you!
The idea of holding a photo or something like that is wonderful if the person is deceased or in another country on a peace corps mission or in the military. I think you should just take the picture without him. If he cleans up at some point, take another picture with him included.
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