I don't know how I should feel about this (daughter, welfare, kindergarten)

[irishfan77]

This is not a hoax or trolling( which obviously sounds like something a troll would say but I hope you'll believe me). I've been going to counseling and working. The counselor was skeptical but hopeful with her behavior. Usually she has a 24 hr " nice period". But she's kept it up since our talk.

[Sweet*Tea]

So she has been acting nice for about a week. Has she been going to counseling? What about your son? Is he living in the house or guesthouse? Is your wife being nice to him?

[irishfan77]

yes,yes,yes, living in the guesthouse, yes

[steelstress]

Oh my... she must feel really threatened that her world may fall apart. And that's a good thing.

[Sweet*Tea]

Originally Posted by irishfan77

yes,yes,yes, living in the guesthouse, yes

This is good news. How does your son like living in the guesthouse? Is he fixing his own meals or eating with you and your wife?

[irishfan77]

He loves living there. It gives him a feeling of independence. He eats with us a lot, he only cooks to show off to his girlfriend.

[Sweet*Tea]

Originally Posted by irishfan77

He loves living there. It gives him a feeling of independence. He eats with us a lot, he only cooks to show off to his girlfriend.

This is great and a good first step in helping him become an adult and be independent.

How are you doing?

[irishfan77]

Originally Posted by Sweet*Tea

How are you doing?

Fine, unfortunately, I'm not totally sold on her behavior though

[Sweet*Tea]

Originally Posted by irishfan77

Fine, unfortunately, I'm not totally sold on her behavior though

You are right to be skeptical of her sudden turnaround and should never underestimate how manipulative and spiteful she can be. People don't usually do a 180 overnight. Real change takes time. Be cautiously optimistic but realistic as well. If it's all just an act, you will know soon enough because she will not be able to keep it up for long.

Keep us posted and good luck.

[rrah]

I'm happy that your wife has been nice to you for a week or so. I am most happy for your son.

How does she feel about your son living in the guest house and going to CC in the fall now?

It's nice to have a break from the stress and her immature behavior, but the real work for both of you is still ahead. As the above poster said, people rarely change dramatically overnight. I hope you are acknowledging her changes with words instead of gifts and dinners.