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I have 3 boys. My oldest are now 7 and 9. I really thought we would be one of those families with no toy guns, no violent tv shows or video games. When my oldest was about 4 years old he would build legos to look like a gun. They would turn bananas into guns and my husband's leaf blower into a bazooka. I gave up. We do have nerf guns and toy guns. Interestingly my youngest, age 3 never shows an interest in the toy guns and doesn't get involved in that kind of play with the older boys yet. He still prefers Thomas the Train.
I am assuming the boys playing were not actually punching or kicking each other for real. I do let my boys "play fight" but I draw the line at physical violence. They like to pretend they are ninjas and they make karate chopping noises, etc. Real punches, kicks or pushing. No way. If I saw them doing that at the playground I would intervene and it would most likely be time to go home.
Some neighborhood kids are building a tree fort up in a 30 foot tree and you learn your kid was involved.
Would you intervene and prevent your kid from participating or allow him/her to continue? There is no safety talk involved as there are no OSHA rules/regulations just as there is no EPA to ruin it. Its just kid doing what kids do.
Did the boys who were play fighting all know each other? If so, the mom's may not have been intervening because all of the boys knew each others limits.
I have a very rough 10 year old son. He is all boy plus a few others. There are some boys that he can play rough with because they enjoy that kind of play, but others he has to play less rough. When we plays with the other rough boys, bystanders have been shocked at them appearing to beat each other up, but both the other mom and I know that the boys will police themselves so we let them continue until someone is upset. But no way in heck would I let him play that way with a boy who I didn't know. Also, I have found that boys, especially preschoolers, will cry and tell them to stop. Boys really enjoy what looks painful to adults, at least mine do. I am fine with rough play as long as no one is getting hurt and everyone who is playing WANTS to be playing rough.
Some neighborhood kids are building a tree fort up in a 30 foot tree and you learn your kid was involved.
Would you intervene and prevent your kid from participating or allow him/her to continue? There is no safety talk involved as there are no OSHA rules/regulations just as there is no EPA to ruin it. Its just kid doing what kids do.
So...whaddaya do?
Send Dad out to help them so that it can be a really awesome (in addition to strong and safe) fort. Great way to learn how to use a variety of tools.
Send Dad out to help them so that it can be a really awesome (in addition to strong and safe) fort. Great way to learn how to use a variety of tools.
What if dad is at work or doing something else? Kids are impetuous when they get a notion to do such things and there is little to dissuade them from doing such.
My point? A parent can't be with them 100% of their lives. If you try, you become the albatross/millstone/ball and chain they must endure and soon resent. My brother built one for his young grandkids. He owns a construction company and put what amounts to an addition to the house up in a tree...staircase and all. They are young and could never attempt such but love it. Its air conditioned and heated with real windows and a locking door. It even has a wrap around deck.
If they wanted to build their own he would let them.
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