7-year-old cousin wants UGGs for her birthday, should I get them?

[no kudzu]

Originally Posted by lkb0714

Eh, I guess most people don't seem to understand what a gift means.

And some people don't understand the issue of parents having the final say in how their kids are raised and the values they want to instill.

[funisart]

Kids Uggs are generally under $200--mostly around $120, even less for toddler boots. Lots of people buy them for their kids or they would not be sold. This is not too much money for the quality, and those who can afford them are not wasting their money.

The problem here is that the parents said no, and so the OP should accept their decision, and apparently is acquiescing to their decision.

All of this speculation and self righteousness is just silly. My granddaughter is almost 3, I haven't bought her a purse, but I have bought her expensive shoes and coats, and other clothes that I knew she would grow of in a year or less. I enjoy it and I can afford it. Maybe when she is a little older I will buy her an IPad. My son and dil have welcomed everything my husband and I have given to her.

My husband and I bought my niece her first Coach purse when she was 12, but that was many years ago when they were still well made classic leather. We have given her many nice gifts through the years. Her parents have had no problem with our gifts.

I'm not sure if I know any seven year old girls who would want to lug a purse around.

I don't remember ever having to ask permission to give anyone a present, or being restricted to certain things. --but then again I wouldn't give a 5 year old a bb gun either.

[nat_at772]

Originally Posted by lkb0714

Seriously, this idea that you MUST run your gift ideas through their pre-approval is sort of ridiculous.

I think that is a selfish mindset; you're just going to give a child an extravagant gift without checking with the parents? How do you know the parents aren't already buying that same gift? If you are buying my child a present that is going to require my participation in any way then you need to check with with me or I will be giving your present back to you or the Goodwill.

A friend brought my son a Lego set when he was 5; the really tiny ones. I thanked her but gave it back, explaining that my son was still putting things in his mouth (late developer) and I would have to keep these under lock & key, only allowing him to play with them when I could sit there with him. Who has time for all that extra work for a toy? She wasn't offended. She gave me the gift receipt and I exchanged them for the bigger Legos.

My sister-in-law brought him one of those little motorized jeeps when he was 3. I didn't accept that either. #1 I didn't have storage for it. #2 I didn't live in an area where he could ride it safely outside (we lived near a college and they sped through at 80 miles an hour for no reason and there weren't any sidewalks). #3 I couldn't fit the stupid thing in my compact car. She got mad and decided to keep it at her house. He rode it maybe 7 or 8 times before he outgrew it. Had she asked me beforehand I could have saved her time and money and perhaps he could have gotten a gift he could enjoy.

[cindersslipper]

Keeping the receipt takes care of any possible double up problems.

Buy the boots.

I think its hysterical they are bloody sheepskin boots FFS, not a bong!

[nat_at772]

Originally Posted by cindersslipper

Keeping the receipt takes care of any possible double up problems.

Buy the boots.

I think its hysterical they are bloody sheepskin boots FFS, not a bong!

The OP already said they weren't buying the boots because the parents said "no".

It's amazing how many people are saying the parents opinions on a gift for their child shouldn't matter...yeah who cares what the people who clothe, feed and shelter the child think?

[Jaded]

Well, since the OP has already decided on the gift for his niece...which never really was a Parenting topic; I think this thread has run its course. Bye-bye.