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My girls are years away from dating but when they do the guys will be required to come inside, say hello, turn their pockets out and be frisked- well maybe not that bad but I do want to see who they will be going out with. And I will require they write down his name and phone number.
Do parents do that anymore? no kid is going to honk on his horn in the driveway and expect my daughter to run to him.
Saw a study today which said NO girls in the questionnaire had been asked out face to face. It is all done by e mail or phone these days! What kind of social interaction is that? I know the fear of rejection is terrible but we all have to live through that somewhere in life.
My husband and I talked about this and he wants the dates to come to the door. If I know the boy already from casual visits, I think it's fine to "honk" for casual dates. But like the OP, it's years away.
I do think at the very minimum you should know what the date looks like.
Well its a long way off yet but I expect it'll be the same as it was for me growing up - if she's going out somewhere with a boy she'll meet him there. I don't expect him to come and meet me unless it gets serious.
None of my girls have ever gone anywhere with a guy unless I have met them. Even if they've met me before we have never had anyone come and beep in the driveway. They always come in even if they are going right back out.
I've never told them they can't beep in the driveway, this is just something they always do.
My daughter is 17. She has some boys who are classmates, or coworkers who she goes out with that I don't expect to meet them all. However, if she is going out on a date, she feels that this individual is somebody she is willing to move on to the next level with, I feel it is my privilege to be able to meet him.
My daughter, I feel, has a pretty level head on her. I trust, based on our relationship, she makes some pretty good decisions for herself. But I'll be honest, the only reason I feel we have that trust is because from her earliest years, I've been up front and honest with her. Teaching her that from the years of 15 to 25, the choices you make could have huge repercussions. She has a responsibility to love and respect herself before any one else can.
She does choose poorly sometimes and that's ok. She is still a kid.
We didn't require anything...by the time our kids were dating age (high school) they had proven they could pick the right kind of kids to hang out with and we trusted their judgement, and quite frankly are a better judge of the kids then we were since they saw these kids away from adults. Sometimes we met them before they went on a date, sometimes not, usually not until they were "going out" or as the new slang is "Facebook Official". This goes along with the thread of kids being born bad...if you expect they will pick disrespectful boys (or girls as it applies), then that is exactly what you will get.
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