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My son is 3 years old and he'll start coming to stay with me during the weekend. We would cry in the first few times because he's so attached to his mother but now he's very excited whenever he comes to my house.
However, that also creates a problem to me. How to be intimate with one of the 3 women I'm casually meeting right now if he stays during the weekend?
Sure they can come on a week day but it's not the same thing, we all work and have other things to take care of. Nobody enjoys a 20 minute quicky as a basis. I like bringing them home and having plenty of time to relax, take a bath together and spend the whole night in bed.
Will I basically have to cancel my sex life? If so, I'm sure I'll get as grumpy as my father.
Hello~ From all indications, it really sounds like your not ready or up to being a father, even a weekend one, otherwise you not even have to ask such a thing.... It's your child time, be an adult! As for your sex life, it be there, unlike your child....
Between 9 and 9.30 during weekdays. He usually stays up later during the weekend, perhaps 10.30 at most.
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I'm guessing you're not close enough to these women you're seeing that having them around in the evenings wouldn't be odd. Like, inviting a woman around dinner, when your son is winding down for the night, so that you can be with her once he's sleeping.
We would have to be really quiet because I can't obviously leave the house.
I don't understand much about children but I would say he's going to wake up a lot during the first few nights because he isn't used to a different room. His mother went through a hard time to get him to sleep on his own for a start.
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What does his mother do? Are you on speaking terms enough that you can ask her for advice? My sister and her daughter's father aren't together, but they're friendly enough that they can help each other figure out parenting issues like this. In fact, maybe you could ask this question in the parenting forum.
What does she do regarding what? Yes, we're on speaking terms when it comes to anything related to the little boy but I wouldn't want to ask her for advice in such a personal matter. She wouldn't be too pleased if I mentioned other women and our son in the same story, especially after what happened between us.
Thanks for the suggestion. How can the thread be moved to the parenting forum? Or do I have to make a new one?
Between 9 and 9.30 during weekdays. He usually stays up later during the weekend, perhaps 10.30 at most.
We would have to be really quiet because I can't obviously leave the house.
I don't understand much about children but I would say he's going to wake up a lot during the first few nights because he isn't used to a different room. His mother went through a hard time to get him to sleep on his own for a start.
What does she do regarding what? Yes, we're on speaking terms when it comes to anything related to the little boy but I wouldn't want to ask her for advice in such a personal matter. She wouldn't be too pleased if I mentioned other women and our son in the same story, especially after what happened between us.
Thanks for the suggestion. How can the thread be moved to the parenting forum? Or do I have to make a new one?
you don't know understand much about children? how long has it been since you've seen him? I don't understand this whole thread. you shouldn't even be worrying about your sex life right now. your child comes first. yes you will have to give up a lot of your free time and be a parent not a playboy..
I really don't know where you people live but going to kindergarten at 3 is the standard age here. I went to one as well...and that was many years ago.
Not sure where you are, but most posters here are in the US and Canada. In the US, it varies by state but kindergarten starts at age 5 or 6 and is only one year. It's part of the public school system. Then it's first grade, second, etc. Before kindergarten, parents are responsible for their child's care (some stay at home, some go to pre-school, some go to daycare, etc).
Like I said, you are a parent now and you are going to have to make changes. You didn't say if the child's mother has him every other weekend or not. If she does, you have him 3 days out of every 10. In those 3 days spend your time with your son when you have him and forget the women--you can spend the other 7 days with them. You will just have to adjust your schedule. You will find, as a parent, you will have to do that a lot.
Not sure where you are, but most posters here are in the US and Canada. In the US, it varies by state but kindergarten starts at age 5 or 6 and is only one year. It's part of the public school system. Then it's first grade, second, etc. Before kindergarten, parents are responsible for their child's care (some stay at home, some go to pre-school, some go to daycare, etc).
Ah, in Europe it's very common for kindergarten to start at age 3. It's obviously a very light type of pre-school at first. He went to daycare when he was almost 2 and before that both his grandmothers took care of him during the day.
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Like I said, you are a parent now and you are going to have to make changes. You didn't say if the child's mother has him every other weekend or not. If she does, you have him 3 days out of every 10. In those 3 days spend your time with your son when you have him and forget the women--you can spend the other 7 days with them. You will just have to adjust your schedule. You will find, as a parent, you will have to do that a lot.
Right now she has him every weekend. He usually comes here on Saturday afternoon but then returns to his mother's house.
Of course when I'm with him I'm really with him. I don't have anyone else at home when he's around apart from the occasional male friend who comes to pay a visit.
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Ah, in Europe it's very common for kindergarten to start at age 3. It's obviously a very light type of pre-school at first. He went to daycare when he was almost 2 and before
Ah, where in Europe is this? Generally they start later than the US.
Aunties? I don't have to explain anything because he's not going to meet them. It's hard enough already to explain to him why his mother and aren't together like his little friends parents.
I don't understand. Your OP is asking how to be with these women while your son is in your home. But you say he'll never meet them? Were you planning on sneaking them in through your bedroom window? Or leaving the child alone while you and one of the women take time out at a hotel?
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