Older son with bad temper

[mainebrokerman]

remove all the guns in your house

take him to counseling

[ItsRick24]

Well I'll tell you what...
Last night, he and I spoke. No yelling, no screaming, just talking. Did we resolve everything? No. Did we reach a better understanding of each other? Yes. We can agree to disagree on some issues - there's no good guy, there's no bad guy - but I did suggest he try some thiengs that are therapeutic, in the form of his favorite hobbies. He agreed and it's calm for now.

[beachmel]

Originally Posted by ItsRick24

Well I'll tell you what...
Last night, he and I spoke. No yelling, no screaming, just talking. Did we resolve everything? No. Did we reach a better understanding of each other? Yes. We can agree to disagree on some issues - there's no good guy, there's no bad guy - but I did suggest he try some thiengs that are therapeutic, in the form of his favorite hobbies. He agreed and it's calm for now.

Good to hear, Rick! :-)

[Billy_J]

Originally Posted by ItsRick24

What have I done? I've yelled, I've grounded, I've revoked privileges. My dad used to beat my ass AND holler at me. As I've said, I've spanked when the kids were small. He has anger issues and wants to fight; I had anger issues and wanted to lash out when I was a kid. I took it too far and my dad decked the **** out of me! Taught me a thing or two!

Sometimes with boys/men, you have to give them a bit of "tough love". Get madder than they are - yell louder than they are yelling, take them out to the woodshed, etc.

Or "set your limits". Don't allow him to go beyond a certain point PERIOD - hold your ground! (Basically certain things are unacceptable and WILL NOT be tolerated.)

If all else fails, threaten to take away the cell phone, video games, and TV! (This may be considered cruel and unusual punishment!)