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But her son isn't asking her to do that. He made a statement about what his conditions are for staying at her home.
She gave him her terms and he gave her his. They don't agree. Neither one wants to budge, and neither one should be forced to. As a result, she has less time with her son and is upset. He does not appear to be upset by it at all.
Do you think an adult child should be required to sleep at his mother's home and spend a specific amount of time when he visits, whether he wants to or not, just to please his mother?
No I don't and I already stated that she would have to deal with the consequences since she has a stubborn child. No one is required to spend a certain amount of time with anyone. But it's sad when you can't respect someone's morals (even if they are not your own) long enough to spend time with your family. Again....I wouldn't put someone in the position to choose between me or their values.
It is valid argument because in both cases the parents already have rules established for their house based on their moral code and are being asked to violate them to appease their child.
The OP is not being asked to violate her morals. Since they aren't staying at her house, they are honoring her wishes. The mother having morals doesn't change that adult children aren't required to stay at their parents' houses. My parents didn't stay at my paternal grandparents house when we visited. We always stayed at a hotel.
The OP is not being asked to violate her morals. Since they aren't staying at her house, they are honoring her wishes. The mother having morals doesn't change that adult children aren't required to stay at their parents' houses. My parents didn't stay at my paternal grandparents house when we visited. We always stayed at a hotel.
He asked if his girlfriend could sleep in his room, which is against the OP's morals.
No I don't and I already stated that she would have to deal with the consequences since she has a stubborn child. No one is required to spend a certain amount of time with anyone. But it's sad when you can't respect someone's morals (even if they are not your own) long enough to spend time with your family.
He does spend time with his family. He simply isn't sleeping there.
Honestly I can't blame the OP's son for not wanting to stay the night there if her condition is that his long term girlfriend can't share the same bed with him. Honestly if I was in the same situation I would be tempted to not even visit period.
It seems like the OP is one of those parents who wants to control their kids even into adulthood which will have negative consequences later on if he/she continues this behavior in regards to their relationship.
He asked if his girlfriend could sleep in his room, which is against the OP's morals.
He didn't ask anything
" His reply was "And I would like to share bed with my girlfriend" which I quickly told him no! He then said that's the answer I'd get from him!"
That's a quote from the OP's post. There is no question in there. It's a statement.
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