I have a question about a 15 yr old boys behavior towards his mother. Sometimes on the couch in the evening, or even at the dinner table, this quiet boy will lay his head on his mothers' shoulder or chest, and start nuzzling her. He will close his eyes, and smile while he's doing it. He will lay there for minutes at a time, and has spent 15 or 20 minutes like that some evenings. I have mentioned my distain at both of their behaviors to my wife, and she says I'm the only one who has a problem with it.
Last night we went to myparents house for a Halloween family get-together. In front of my parents, my two siblings, and their families, my wife (52) and her son pulled a blanket over themselves. And my stepson started hugging and nuzzling his mother. I immediately told him to pull himself off of her, quietly and discreetly, at first. He smirked at me, and then he closed his eyes, and continued. My wife ignored me.
My family members started noticing, and one by one, four of them came over to talk with me. Comments ranged from... "What's going on over there" to "that is totally inappropriate, what's wrong with her?".
I was embarrassed, so I asked her to get out from under the blanket with him, and she said they were cold.
I then went to the bedroom and got my stepson his hoodie. I also told them to get away from the open front door, where we were handing out candy. They moved to a couch across the room, where they immediately cuddled up again, this time with his arm around his mothers' shoulders. and him laying his head into the crook of her neck. By now, I had had enough ( I was mortified!)... I told them we were leaving... and I lashed out at her saying... if he was that tired after having sex, he should get home and get to bed!
( I know, not my finest hour, but this has been going on too long, in my opinion.) When we got home, and I tried to calm down, we didn't speak for 4 hours. My wife wanted to pretend like nothing happened. I told her she embarrassed me. She said no one else seemed to care. I told her about the comments, and she went to the bedroom, and closed the door to go to sleep.
Is this normal behavior between a mother and son, or do I have reason for concern?
Thanks for listening
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