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One of my kids is easy as pie. My husband and I secretly call him "the perfect child." The second one is... tough. He's always been defiant, argumentative, just overall hard to handle. I really think he has some form of ODD (oppositional defiance disorder). Do you have kids that are just polar opposites of each other?
The younger one (how far apart in age are they?) is marking out his territory in a manner of speaking. He's not his brother and is making sure everyone knows it.
We had the same thing with our youngest. We'd be into school for him more in one year than we were for the other three put together for all the years they were in school.
All I can say is that you have to patient and firm.
As a note, the youngest one is still a pain in the ass but not a major one anymore. He'll be 18 in a couple weeks.
Just like me and my brother. Every one got their own character. My brother was quiet silent not loud talking but me total opposite.If I talk whole city would hear, I am a noisy kid when I was little But they change when they grow just like me. My mother said when I was 12 or more I start being quiet settled and patients. Be patient that is all I can say as my mother did with us.
Yes, two out of my three kids seem to be polar opposites. They are both girls, only 2.5 years apart in age. It really made me a believer in nature opposed to nurture, as the dominant force in shaping personalities.
My son took forever and every trick in the book to potty train. He was 3.5 when I finally got him trained. My daughter trained herself in one day when she was 2.
They are both strong-willed, but in different ways...and my son takes it to more of an extreme than my daughter. My stepdaughter is their polar opposite. She's a very sweet and compliant child. The tone of voice I have to use to get the attention of the oldest daughter would crush the middle child.
I recommend the book Setting Limits with Your Strong-willed Child. It helped me deal with my oldest.
With my son (now 5), I've just accepted the fact that he is pretty much his mama - he his EXTREMELY independent, and he just isn't going to do things that he thinks are stupid. Period, not gonna do it. That child will happily go without dinner rather than apologize for saying something that he knows is rude. So I pick my battles very carefully and educate, educate, educate so that he can make wise decisions on his own.
Good luck!!!!
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